Does It Bother You When Friends Constantly Talks About Being Healthy?

I wrote this post a few months ago for a website on yahoo! And I received various responses from “Yes, it bothers me” to “No way, I do the same thing.” And now I’d like to hear what my new friends here have to say.

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I am definitely guilty of obsessing over eating well and exercising. For the last month, I have been fully aware of everything I’ve put in my mouth. And I don’t really have plans to stop.

Someone recently said that if you want to get healthy then it has to be the most important thing you do. I’m trying, and I am determined. But I think I should find a balance between deliberate and annoying friends by constantly thinking about my own weight loss.

My friends have been so good about it, and I’m very thankful. But I was thinking about how sometimes people think they’re the authority on a subject then they drive people nuts, offering unsolicited knowledge on the topic. And I do not want to become that person.

I am certainly not an expert, and I will not tell anyone else what to eat or how to exercise. But should I try to keep a lid on my own objectives as well? Or is it okay to be outwardly excited about the transformation I’m making in my own habits?

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    Anonymous
    June 10, 2009 at 11:44 pm

    If it's just going to be a part of your life, then let your friends lead the way. If they ask how you're doing, or open up the subject, then go with it. Otherwise, they may think you're bragging or rubbing their noses in it.

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    Opinions
    June 10, 2009 at 11:45 pm

    Changing and maintaining healthy lifestyles are cause for celebration. I love hearing about my friends' accomplishments. However, I don't like it when "I'm so excited that…" turns into "BTW, You should or shouldn't…". No matter how well intentioned the person is, I personally don't appreciate the preaching to change, especially if it's about something I am comfortable doing (or not doing.)

    Your life, your choices; my life, my choices.

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    Ms. O
    June 11, 2009 at 12:48 am

    What a great subject and one I've not thought about before.

    Until now, I've always shared my weight loss journey with everyone around me. It's been more for selfish reasons- I wanted people to ask how it was going b/c I hoped it would help keep me on track.

    WRONG!

    I think you have a great approach to it. I find that when friends talk about their success, I tend to envy their success and it often will motivate me, so I encourage it. But, I can see where others would be bothered by someone constantly talking about what they're doing, how they've done it, etc.

    This time, I'm actually NOT telling people I know about my journey b/c I want to see if they'll notice differences in me. And, if they notice and mention it, I want to thank them and move on. I almost don't want to constantly bring it up b/c that approach has failed me in the past. Maybe if I keep it to myself, I'm more apt to stick with things.

    I'm really enjoying your posts 🙂

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    Lauren
    June 11, 2009 at 1:12 pm

    I love hearing about other people's successes. I find it motivates me.

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    Xazmin
    June 12, 2009 at 8:09 am

    This is a tough one. It's so exciting when we are making healthy changes, and even though we may not be offering unsolicited advice, we can still come across as "braggy" to others who don't share our excitement.

    I've fallen into this trap before. I lost a bunch of weight before I got pregnant with baby #4, and the health focus was my life, so that's all I talked about. I knew people were getting sick of it, but I couldn't help myself!

    I'm trying to be better this time around!

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