It is not okay to mock someone for being black. It is not okay to shout homosexual slurs. We do not openly criticize those who are alcoholics. Nor is it politically correct to judge those who are socioeconomically challenged. But it seems acceptable, at least in the world around me, to judge, criticize and berate those who are obese.
I have friends who are thin, beautiful and seemingly perfect. And I have friends who are not-so-thin, hard working and motivated. My friend, Monica, has been on diet after diet most of her life, trying to fit into a size 10 while my friend, Katie, comfortably wears an extra small (and looks great in a bikini) without setting foot into a gym.
Katie definitely gets more attention than Monica which is okay because everyone has a right to their preferences. But we all have a right to be treated with basic, human decency. And that means whether someone is a little overweight or morbidly obese, it should unacceptable to belittle that person because they don’t look how you think they should look.
Everyone has a story. And some of us (like me) work hard to change what we don’t like about ourselves. And I’ve lost about 45 pounds already! But that doesn’t mean a thing to the woman who walks by me in a department store or the person in the car who yells at me as I power walk around the block.
I’ll keep working hard to lose weight because that’s what I want to do. But I’m not doing it to appease strangers who may or may not be forced to sit next to me on an airplane. I’m doing it because I want to be light on my feet. I also want to feel pretty and to be healthy. And I don’t need any negative “motivation” to help me reach my goal.
I’m lucky to have supportive and loving people in my life. They are the ones who will always be there, and they’re the ones who will help me celebrate the little milestones on my journey.
But to those of you who would seek to tear me down or judge me without knowing me, think on this…”We judge others by their actions, and ourselves by our intentions.” Perhaps it would be wise to consider that maybe I am trying. And maybe you should also remind yourself that it’s none of your business anyway.
**Names have been changed to protect the awesomeness that is my friends.**