I’ve had good luck (or judgment) in dating for the most part. I’ve dated guys who could be described as sincere, honest, loyal, successful and smart. They’ve all been pretty handsome too – and tall. I’m 5′ 4″ so it’s not hard to date guys who are taller than me, but sometimes that’s not enough.
Almost immediately after moving to The City that Never Sleeps, I found myself interested in a guy that was (maybe) 5′ 6″ and 120 pounds. Can you imagine? He had one of the most beautiful faces I’d ever seen. He said he loved me, kissed me every time I saw him and even introduced me to his parents. But we both knew that he was too small, more importantly, I was too big for us to work out in a dating relationship. We continued to be friends for a while, but in the end, we both moved on to new relationships. And I realize now that it had to be this way because I was so unhappy around him. I turned into this blob of insecurity who could never really change what I didn’t like about myself because I was so busy feeling bad about it.
Being with taller guys, even as friends, helps me feel smaller which is totally important now. I’m not small, but I want to be. And I’m working on it, but until then I’d still like to feel feminine. I do what I can. And the truth is that dating a taller guy who has broad shoulders, sculpted arms and a big heart makes me feel more secure than someone who has an equally big heart and a little body. While my boyfriend is not super tall, he’s tall enough to keep me from feeling self-conscious walking down the street with him. And, of course, he’s smokin’ hot. 😉
Am I alone in this or does anyone agree that dating a tall guy makes them feel smaller?
Would you date someone who is shorter than you?
What helps you feel feminine in a body that is bigger than average?