I went to a party recently, and someone actually asked me how I could be so intelligent while being overweight. I did not take it as an insult because it came from a shy and overweight woman who clearly lacks self-esteem.
The woman, a housewife in her middle to late 30’s, could not imagine that I walk around Manhattan just because I like it. Nor could she imagine that I surround myself with people who are thinner than I am because I like them.
She admitted that she “gave up after college, married a good man who was crazy enough to marry her,” had his kids and feels like she is better off now than she deserves.
Days later, I still cannot believe that she actually expressed these feelings to me — not because I didn’t want to hear them, but because she really believes that she’s worth less because of her size.
Maybe it’s different for me because I am losing weight so steadily or because I know I’ll look awesome in a designer suit. Either way, I cannot imagine letting my weight diminish who I am as a human being to the point of giving up.
Admittedly, I’ve never been the kind of girl who settles for less than what I want, and I always assume that people will like and respect me so maybe part of my confidence comes from my attitude. And perhaps it’s also because I can truly say that I am working to be better tomorrow than I was today.
So my question is this: Is there anyone out there who settles for less because they don’t like how they look or because they think they don’t deserve more? And if so, how did you come to that conclusion?
In my opinion, we deserve as much as we are willing to work for. And while I know life is not always fair, that will never be my excuse for giving up.