Reader Question

Hi Kenz,
I just stumbled upon your blog this afternoon and wanted to write and say that I’ve been so moved by your honesty as you continue your journey! I’m sure you get emails like this all the time, but I was hoping I could ask you a few questions and am crossing my fingers that you are willing to answer them!
I too am battling obesity. Just typing that word makes me want to cry! I need to make a change but think about the 120 or so pounds that I have to lose and I can’t seem to start because it seems like an impossible number. In the past, I had paid money to a weight loss company and lost 60 pounds only to gain it back after I got off the plan. We are a single income family and simply cannot afford for me to pay money to lose the weight. I feel hopeless in this situation but found your site to be so inspiring!
Do you think it’s possible for a 30 something married woman to lose 120 pounds on her own without the help of a gym membership and without paying someone for help? Right now I have a Wii with the Wii Fit and a Weight Watchers Cookbook.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Many Blessings,
M

Hi M,

I can’t actually do much for you accept tell you what works for me. I should tell you first that I am so. not. a. professional. I’m just a 29 year old girl who needs to lose quite a lot of weight. I’ve lost about 72 since April, and I still have a lot to lose to hit my goal weight. hehe

That being said, I know I can do it. And I do believe that you can do it too. It won’t be easy…In fact, it might be one of the hardest things you ever do, but it’s also so unbelievably rewarding. I already feel like a new person though I’m nowhere near my goal.

Okay, now…if I were you, I’d go to a doctor first to be sure there’s no reason that you shouldn’t be exercising. If he clears you then super! It’s amazing what our bodies can do (even when we assume we cannot.) So I’d start with the basics.

– Eat lots of fruits and veggies. I eat 9 servings per day, but starting with 5 would be fantastic. Things like a cup of cucumbers, 10 baby carrots, an orange, a couple slices of cantaloupe, an apple, a banana, etc. I like bananas because I exercise a lot, and I need the potassium so I don’t get cramps. 🙂

– Speaking of exercise…I know it seems overwhelming at first, but walking for 20 minutes three times per week will help you burn calories and build up endurance. So walk outside if it’s nice or walk in place inside if it’s lousy outside. Just walk! Walk! Walk! And when you’re walking, lift your hands above your head and sway to the beat of your steps every few minutes. Lifting your hands over your head once in a while will increase your heart rate which burns more calories.

– Make a specific time to exercise everyday. I mean, if you’re walking every other day then decide on a time and do it then. I tend to hit the gym at 2:45 in the afternoon (I prefer a late lunch.) And believe me, I know what it’s like to be busy. It is really easy to use time as an excuse not to exercise, but don’t even try it. 😉 It will not work. There is no TV show, trip to the store or nap that can make you feel as good as the changes you’ll see in your body if you stick with the program.

I don’t have a Wii, but several of my friends own them and love them. I’d like to have one eventually because I’ve heard that they can yield great results. The key is to get moving…get your blood pumping and sweat! Do not be afraid to sweat!

– Also, try to find someone reliable to share your exercise schedule. It can be a little easier if there’s someone there to push you and vice versa. But you exercise whether they do it or not. If it’s better for you to do it solo, then so be it. Don’t take shortcuts. You’ll just hurt yourself. 

– Eat well. If you’re not sure what that means then send me another message because it would be hard to sum it all up here. Here’s the basic idea. You must eat breakfast. We’ve all heard that it’s the most important meal of the day, but I didn’t actually understand why until recently. When we eat breakfast we are jump starting our metabolism for the day thus burning more calories. So, see? Eating is good. 🙂 We just have to learn to eat healthy things like foods that are high in fiber and/or whole grains, lean proteins and fruits and vegetables. Your Weight Watchers cookbook will help you make balanced and healthy decisions that the whole family can eat. I use my WW cookbooks a lot.

– Drink water. If you’re a coffee and soda drinker, replace some of it with water. It may not be super exciting at first. Who am I kidding? It sucks at first, but several months down the road you won’t even crave it. In fact, you’ll feel better knowing you’re not drinking that junk. It takes time. Don’t give up. Don’t try to change all at once.

Don’t make excuses. Don’t say I’ll start tomorrow. I’ll eat better later. You get the idea, right? You have to accept that sometimes you’ll do really well and other times you won’t. But you do your best. Forgive yourself when you do something you wish you hadn’t done. And keep going forward. If you do well most of the time then you’ll be good to go.

– Here’s the last thing for now and probably the most important thing. It will be tough to make healthy choices sometimes, but it will get a little easier (at least most of the time.) So think about how amazing you’ll feel when you step on the scale weighing less. Don’t think about what you’ll be giving up. Think about what you will gain – a new lifestyle that makes you happier. It will be awesome. It will not be easy, but it will be totally worth it.

Wow, if you got through this entire message you’re already a champ. I wish you all the best with this, and I’m here if you need me. You can do this…I believe that. And I can also tell you that you’ll start feeling great long before you hit your goal. You’ll feel like a new person who has more pep in your step, more stamina and a healthier lifestyle.

Get started and keep going…and take it one day at a time!

All the best,

Kenz

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14 Comments

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    Deb Willbethin
    January 19, 2010 at 4:05 am

    Wow. Kenz, that was an amazing, thorough, doable and totally sound answer! You did good! I see weight-loss coach in your future. 😀 Deb

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    Rhonda
    January 19, 2010 at 4:41 am

    Kenz that was an awesome post! I agree with everything you said!

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    Jen
    January 19, 2010 at 2:20 pm

    Kenz–

    Very inspiring. Thanks for posting!

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    The Closet of Kim (ShopKim)
    January 19, 2010 at 2:31 pm

    This was a really wonderful response to her!

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    Sheila
    January 19, 2010 at 3:53 pm

    Kenz – you are the NEXT Jillian Michaels….i can already see it! 🙂

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    ♥ Kenz ♥
    January 19, 2010 at 4:34 pm

    Thanks everyone…and Sheila..hahahahhhahaha That made me laugh and smile…big time. ha

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    ♥ Kenz ♥
    January 19, 2010 at 4:35 pm

    And thank you Deb…that is a big compliment. Who knows what the future holds? I only know that I'm doing to do my best to carve out what I want out of it. 🙂

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    jennykate77
    January 19, 2010 at 4:38 pm

    You give such great advice, Kenz! I agree with everything that you said. I'm sure this will be a HUGE help to her!

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    Anonymous
    January 19, 2010 at 5:25 pm

    Kenz, well said. You just helped way more people than M!

    Tina

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    Diz
    January 19, 2010 at 10:29 pm

    Way to be a great inspiration K. I told you, you inspire all types of people, all the time. Keep up the great work! I heart you! And thank you for your tip the other day to me personally as well. 😉 I've been thinking about it a lot. Get paid on Thursday so we'll see what happens… 😉

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    Becca
    January 19, 2010 at 10:59 pm

    You are so wonderful to answer her back with such thoroughness!! I loved reading it to- you make it so very do-able!!

    Have a wonderful week!!

    ~Becca

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    Liza
    January 20, 2010 at 4:12 am

    Kenz – I just recently started reading your blog and I wanted to let you know how amazing I think you are. You are beautiful, both inside and out, and truly, truly inspiring. I am on a journey to lose quite a bit of weight myself and it truly helps to know there are "real people" like you out there doing it as well. I look forward to reading your blog every time you post, please keep it up!!!

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    Heather
    January 20, 2010 at 5:03 am

    You constantly amaze, inspire, and WOW me. I look forward to reading your posts every day. (I read them on Google Reader at work but due to firewall issues, can't leave comments, and I always forget to sign on at home and comment on my favorite posts.) I hope you are proud of yourself ~ all of your readers sure are! :o)

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    skylark
    January 22, 2010 at 3:43 pm

    Amazing! I'm inspired

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