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You Get What You Expect

Obviously, the statement in the title of this post isn’t always true, but in regards to weight loss it often is. If I believe I will lose weight I tend to do what needs to be done to see that happen. On the flip side, if I tell myself it won’t happen it usually doesn’t.

I hear people say things like “Of course, I blew it at the party” or “I knew that those cookies would make me stumble.” And while I don’t think they’re trying to make excuses, I do think they’re looking for justification for what they’ve just done. I hear “of course I ate three pieces of cake,” as if that were the only possible outcome.

If you spend much time listening to me, you won’t hear me say things like this. You won’t hear me explain why making poor choices was the only way. There are times when I’ve eaten more than I should have at a party, but I don’t believe I did it because it was the only option. Perhaps I did it because I figured I could get away with it or because I was still hungry because I didn’t fill up on whole grains, lean meats and/or fruits and veggies. Maybe I just didn’t plan as well as I should have.

But is that a good reason to assume that this is the way it has to be now? Absolutely not. My boyfriend eats Oreos from time to time. He also likes chocolate chip cookies, but I’ve never seen a pan of warm, fresh homemade cookies send him into a frenzy. He enjoys a few then saves the rest for the days to come. If I want a cookie, I’ll have a cookie. But again…you won’t see me fall into a cookie-crazed state in which I devour the whole batch. It just doesn’t happen like that.

So what makes it so easy to pass on the foods that everyone else seems to enjoy without worry? It’s not always easy, but I look at the big picture. I remind myself that while I might enjoy eating another cookie or another quiche or crab cake that I couldn’t possibly want it more than I want to lose weight. I remind myself that eating those treats will not satisfy me the way that the pride in my determination will.

The mind is our most invaluable asset. It can make or break us. If we allow ourselves to lose control in our minds before the temptation even presents itself then we can be sure of what’s to follow. But when we resolve ourselves to make a plan and stick to it (at least for the most part) we are the ones in control. And that’s how we become victorious.

Even in those times in which we do give into temptations only to wish we had not, we still have the opportunity to take back control. We still have the ability to move forward in a positive way. All you have to do is remind yourself that one day of poor eating will not cancel out ten days of good food choices. When we stumble, we must forgive ourselves immediately and get back into our good habits — immediately. There is absolutely no reason that one day should turn into two days or two weeks. We gain control back when we want it.

Your mind might say “Eh, I made bad food choices today so the week is ruined.” I can’t say I understand that at all because my mind says “Alright..I didn’t do as well as I should have today, but I’m going to make up for it starting now.” And even in weeks that this happens, I usually jump right back into the healthy habits that make me feel good. And the other six days are usually enough to counter that one not so great day.

I didn’t write this post to sound like a know-it-all because I certainly do not know much at all. 😉 What I do know is that my success to this point has come through planning and not being afraid of jumping right back in after a rough day/week.

There will always be ups and downs, but I refuse to think of myself as a failure or as someone who cannot change what they want to change about themselves. I take pride in the fact that I have changed and that I’ve become the person I want to be…a strong, healthy, confident person who is simply waiting for the outside to catch up with the inside.

I am the master of my own mind so I can believe in myself if I choose to or I can sobatoge myself if spend too much time looking for excuses. I prefer to continue believing in myself because it has definitely worked so far. And I plan to enjoy my healthy habits for the rest of my life. I love my life too much not to.

Do you believe that your mind is a tool for your weight loss?
Do you struggle to get back into a good groove after a day or two of less than stellar choices?

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    March 4, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    Great post! It's all true. I have to say I don't struggle anymore to get back into my groove. This groove is my life. It has to be.

    Happy weigh in day!

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    Waisting Time
    March 4, 2010 at 6:52 pm

    I love this post! You are right – this is such a mental game. Right now I am winning, but many times in the past I have eaten one bad thing then gone on to have one bad eating day that became a week then a month. Everything eat (or don't eat) is a choice. You are inspiring in you attitude!

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    The Monkey and Me
    March 4, 2010 at 6:57 pm

    "waiting for the outside to catch up with the inside" That's freaking great! You are freaking great! This is such a great post I know I will read and re read whenever needed!

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    March 4, 2010 at 7:14 pm

    Excellent post. The attitude that you approach it with makes all the difference.

    I know when I approached weight loss this time, I approached it with the knowledge that this time is it. This is the time I'm going to take it off and keep it off. I believe that and it's part of what keeps me going forward.

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    Ashley @ The Happy Little Home
    March 4, 2010 at 8:02 pm

    I loved this. Thanks 😉

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    {Absolutely, Positively} Josie
    March 4, 2010 at 9:02 pm

    when it comes to weight loss, i believe it always comes down to my mind. if it weren't for irrational thinking, i really don't believe i'd be overweight.
    but the good thing is, the same brain that looks for excuses to eat everything in sight, is also the same brain that plans out how to eat right and exercise to lose weight. it's all about perspective.
    i admire your patience!

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    March 4, 2010 at 9:14 pm

    I definitely believe that the mind has everything to do with health and weight loss. When do we most tend to overeat? During times of crisis. Our mind is telling us that we need something to make things all better. If we can control our thinking, we can control our behavior.

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    Deb Willbethin
    March 4, 2010 at 9:58 pm

    This was a sane and rational post–full of positive attitude, determination, logic and truth. It was, obviously, not written by a food addict. We have a different truth. Deb

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    March 4, 2010 at 11:10 pm

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! This is just what I needed to hear today! I weigh-in tomorrow, and I have been sweating it! I made a few bad choices last week, but that's not the end, even if I gain or don't lose it will not be the end – it's just a new beginning tomorrow! You are such and inspiration!

    Blessings, Barb

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    March 4, 2010 at 11:35 pm

    Came across your blog and love the journey your on. Your doing great. I have just started the journey of losing 30 pounds all by calorie counting. Look forward to see your progress it's encouraging.

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    Genie @ Diet of 51
    March 5, 2010 at 12:12 am

    I wish you would record your "lectures" and make them available for download.

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