Yesterday I shared my thoughts on being rather dateless lately, and several of you left extraordinarily supportive, hope-filled comments suggesting that I focus on myself and the positive aspects of being single. (For the record, I don’t sit at home feeling sorry for myself for not having a boyfriend. I like my life.)
I’m going to attempt to make a list of the positives now so here they are, in no particular order:
1. Moving across the country is easier because my only responsibility is for myself. I can also take last minute vacation for a week with a friend just because without explanation or causing jealousy.
2. I can go to sleep with the TV on every night if I want to, or I can turn it off…no one else gets a vote. And I don’t have to rationalize sleeping with a ceiling fan on even though I’m freezing under three big blankets..which I am..every night. =)
3. No one leaves the toilet seat up in my bathroom.
4. Flirting is totally acceptable.
5. I can watch Say Yes to the Dress: Big Bliss and gush over Neal in White Collar, and no one rolls their eyes at me. Note to future boyfriend: You will not come between Neal and Me, but I’ll let you watch the show with me every Tuesday night as long as you’re quiet and don’t block the TV! 😉
6. I am my biggest priority. I have time to concentrate on myself and my health.
7. I’m not affected by anyone else’s eating habits on a regular basis.
8. I can stay in and watch college football all day without pressure to go out on Saturday night instead of staying in, eating a big sandwich or sushi and watching important games.
9. I’ve learned that I can be handy. I’m pretty good at putting things together, and I can get rid of bugs when I need to. I still believe that eradication of bugs should be a guy’s job, but I digress.
10. I have a clean slate – a new opportunity to be the best version of myself and to be someone I’m proud to be.
I still can’t honestly say that being single is the best thing ever, but it does have some major perks. And, in case it’s not blatantly obvious, I’d rather be alone than be with someone just for the sake of not being alone. I have always believed that’s a silly reason to date someone, and I don’t say yes every time someone asks just because he asks.
I am a work in progress, and I feel like another light bulb has come on in my head. I am happy, smart, friendly, driven, compassionate and determined. I have a family that loves me and friends that are awesome.
I can’t control the future, but it looks bright. And while I always hope to grow and improve, I’m thankful for my life just as it is today. And that feels good.
What do you think? Did I cover everything? Would you add anything to the list?