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Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone

Last weekend, I was invited to attend IDEA, a fitness convention in downtown L.A. so I met up with a couple of my favorite Californians – Leslie and Jaason and met many interesting people who are dedicated to living super fit lifestyles.  Everyone there (including Leslie and Jaason) looked beautiful and photo shopped (there’s a theme here, isn’t there?) so I was more than a little intimidated until I started talking with everyone.

You know how much I love Greek yogurt, right?

I met several people (trainers, company owners, musicians and vendors) who were all incredibly fit. I also met Nicole from Sparkpeople, and she was fantastic! Shortly after I arrived, I was talking with a small group of fitness experts and thought I recognized a woman, realizing a moment later that it was Britney, one of the trainers from the show, Heavy.

Britney and me...

We talked for several minutes about my journey, my strategy to press on toward my health goals and a variety of other topics that included my insecurity about being in a place filled with ultra toned, ridiculously good-looking people. I can’t express how hard it is to lose 100 pounds and still be the heaviest person in almost every room. She was incredibly encouraging, and I left that conversation ready to meet everyone else.

I also met the awesome people behind the Do or Die Fitness which was awesome because I adore their products!  They sent a set of tools for me to try last month, and they’ve helped improve my floor exercises tremendously.  In fact, I think I need to do a giveaway.  Who’s in?! I’m obsessed with using their wrist wedges which makes me so much easier for me to do mountain climbers, push-ups and other things that make my arms and shoulders feel like they might crumble beneath me.  I also like their knee wedges for similar reasons.

Attending this convention was a big deal for me because I stepped out of my comfort zone to do it, and I’m so glad I did. Being here has already presented so many opportunities for me to reestablish my health and fitness goals, but it has also given me the to opportunity to appreciate myself where I am right now. I’m trying…I’m trying…I’m trying…and I’m going to keep trying as long as I have to because there is no other option.  I will continue working toward my fitness goals, updating my food log and loving myself as I am today.

And because I love working out at Slimmons, I’m going to share another video. You can see KeepItUpDavid killin’ it throughout the video, and you can catch me rockin’ out with Richard at about 6 minuntes and 35 seconds. 🙂

How do you feel about stepping outside of your comfort zone?  Do you do it?  How do you handle situations in which you’re insecure due to your looks?  Or does that only happen to me?

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  • Reply
    Ryan Yewell
    August 17, 2011 at 4:12 am

    Hi Kenlie,

    I did a small step outside my comfort zone today… I thought about sharing it on my blog but was a bit embarrassed. It’s summertime here in Vancouver, and my face/neck/forearms are tanned as heck, and the rest of me is pasty white…

    So today, on my tiny little 3rd floor balcony, I took my shirt off and did some suntanning for around 15 minutes… It felt really weird to be outside the confines of a room, and not have a shirt on, that almost never happens. I’ve always been insecure about my body, from weighing 180 lbs and being pretty skinny, to 300 lbs… So it was definitely outside of my comfort zone, but just a little outside, not like at a beach, or a pool… Ultimately, I’ll need to take the attitude of “Who cares?!” when it comes to stuff like this, but today, it felt like I grew just a teeny little bit 🙂

    BTW, I hear where you’re coming from about coming so far and yet having so far to go. I hope that all that you’ve accomplished continues to be a source of strength. Our minds can do funny things, take all those accomplishments and say “so what? look you still have so far to go”, but truly, you are ON THE PATH, so please be proud and good to that soul of yours!
    Ryan

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:48 pm

      That is just fantastic Ryan…thank you for the encouragement! I’m really glad you’re here..=)

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    Miz
    August 17, 2011 at 5:19 am

    oooh and I kinda know Britney 🙂
    she’s from the ATX.

    SO glad you went and had fun.

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:50 pm

      I’m glad I went too! I thought of you when I saw Ugi! =)

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    Ximena
    August 17, 2011 at 8:18 am

    Kenz, loved your workout with Richard and your friends. Every time I read your blog and some of theirs and see you in the videos I feel I’m there with you and that I’m sweating as much as you guys are. It makes me feel not only that you are real but that despite all the struggles you are moving forward towards your goal to be healthy, thinner and beautiful. I also loved the pictures of your bike ridding. You are really on the right path to go out of your comfort zone.
    Thank you for sharing and making us part of your life.
    Ximena

    • Reply
      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:51 pm

      Thank you for being a part of my journey Ximena. I appreciate all of the support and encouragement you offer…

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    Tammy
    August 17, 2011 at 9:29 am

    My upcoming class reunion is going to push me out of my comfort zone as far as being comfortable with my looks. I wasn’t in the “it” crowd back in the day (I had friends who were, though), and going to these things just brings it all back. At work, I know I look good compared to the majority of people in the building, but around the cheerleaders and homecoming queens, it’s going to be rough. So, I’m on the hunt for a dress that is flattering, age-appropriate, and pretty – oh, and killer shoes! Easy, right? I can only do the best I can with what I have to work with – and that’s the plan! I am my own cheerleader!

    • Reply
      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:53 pm

      Well Tammy, I know you, and I think you’re beautiful and smart and lovely. And I also know I’m not the only one. Enjoy the reunion….

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    Michelle @ The Running Jewess
    August 17, 2011 at 10:12 am

    That conference looks absolutely fantastic, I’m hoping to make it out next year. And definitely do a Do or Die giveaway, I could use the wedges for my pushups since I have wrist issues.
    I’m always insecure about my looks. I’m not the biggest person out there, but I’ve been mocked in the past and I always have the on my mind. I’ll be going to graduate school in the fall and I can’t help but wonder what people out in California will look like. It is definitely out of my comfort zone! I want to be a fit and healthy grad student and not worry about being judged for my size.

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:55 pm

      I was wondering the same thing recently too. There are parts of L.A. in which everyone seems to be gorgeous and perfect looking, but there are also parts in which I just see “regular” looking people. It’s like NY in that sense..

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    MissJ
    August 17, 2011 at 10:27 am

    Looking back over my life it was when I stepped out of my comfort zone that amazing opportunities and true growth happened. You are in a new exciting place geographically and mentally. It’s such a good sign that you are being so brave–it’s really necessary to “break through” to your next personal zone. Success is when preparation meets opportunity. You are prepared and opportunities are presenting themselves every day-you are ready for success. Plus you deserve it. Just keep walking forward, your goals are within reach.

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:55 pm

      Wow…there are some major nuggets of wisdom in this comment, Thank you MissJ!

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    Duveen
    August 17, 2011 at 10:33 am

    I stepped out of my comfort zone last week by getting a pedicure. I know that doesn’t sound like much to other people, but it was a huge step for me. I lost over 100 lbs about six years ago, and fell back into old habits as a (very bad!) way to deal with a challenging life situation. Now I’m working at re-losing a lot of those same pounds. It’s hard to own being in this body that I thought I’d changed for good, and I have to fight every single day to believe that even though I am overweight, I am not what the media wants to label me as: disgusting, lazy, repulsive, etc. I had avoided getting a pedi because it involved a calf massage, and I knew that I would be sitting among women who were tanned and toned … That makes me very uncomfortable … like I want to hide. I KNOW that is distorted thinking, and finally I just decided to take control of those feelings instead of letting them control me. And now I have lovely toenails 🙂 And I’ll do it again. It was ok. It was a step in the right direction.

    • Reply
      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:56 pm

      I live for pedicures…always have regardless of size, and I think it’s amazing that you’ve done it now too. You deserve to feel good too! =)

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    OperaWife
    August 17, 2011 at 10:47 am

    You’re definitely not the only one. I live in Texas, where the women are beautiful (though probably not as intimidating as LA) and tan, and I feel like even though I’m at a very healthy size, I’m always the biggest girl in the room. Or at least in my circle of friends. So any time there’s a pool party or a night out at the bar, I always feel frumpy and big. But, I have to remind myself how far I’ve come and that I’m HAPPY and making good decisions about my health & fitness.

    I don’t even know you and I’m SUPER proud of you. You are an inspiration, so keep stepping otu of that comfort zone! You never know to whom you might be giving courage to do the same!

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 2:59 pm

      You are adorable….and reminding ourselves how far we’ve come is important. Ryan talked about that in a comment above. It’s so true..

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    Hilary @ The Big Weight
    August 17, 2011 at 10:55 am

    I’m in for that giveaway 😉

    I am avoider unfortunately. I avoid places and situations where I know I will feel insecure. It’s not right, but I’m not quite to a place where I’m ready to put myself out there.

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 3:01 pm

      Great..I’ll put some details together soon!

      I try not to avoid things because of my size, but it has happened in the past. We all just have to keep working on being more comfortable with ourselves.

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    teresa
    August 17, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    Good for you for boldly going to that convention!!
    By the way, that outfit is GREAT on you!
    I’m always working on stepping out of my comfort zone, but it’s a huge challenge.
    This summer I put on a bathing suit and have been swimming and being outside. At my absolute heaviest ever. I did it because I have a 4 year old who will never get this time back and who wants to play with her mom. She inspired me and I’ve been shaking my head that I didn’t do it sooner. How many summers I’ve wasted…

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      Kenlie
      August 17, 2011 at 3:01 pm

      You’re moving forward now which is the most important part…:)

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    Alyssa
    August 17, 2011 at 3:45 pm

    LOVE the video – it looks like so much fun! I have to try his classes one day! I definitelu try and force myself to step out of my comfort zone a lot… most recently it was taking KRAV MAGA which was israeli boxing with a bunch of men! It was so good for me and really forced me to recognize that trying new things is important to finding a long term strategy that will work for me… and with the help of Krav Maga I realized that boxing is where it’s at for me and exercise 🙂 Keep on rockin’, Kenlie!

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      Kenlie
      August 18, 2011 at 6:11 pm

      Wow…that sounds scary yet awesome. 🙂 And you should DEFINITELY come to Slimmons!

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    DizzyGirl
    August 17, 2011 at 9:47 pm

    Welcome to CA baby girl- the first year of my life here was BRUTAL because all I could see were skinny, long haired, long legged, tanned beautiful girls! EVERYWHERE!! SKINNY! But I got over it and started doing things that made me feel hot- and you’ll do it too. 🙂 I know you will! I believe in you!

    xo-

    D

    • Reply
      Kenlie
      August 18, 2011 at 6:11 pm

      Thanks Diz! (((hugs)))

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    Laurie
    August 17, 2011 at 11:12 pm

    You freakin’ amaze me, Kenlie. I am a ball of mess today, tears, drama and shit and I read this and think, “shit I couldn’t do what you do”. You keep positive, keep being fit and walk into that conference. Thank you for reminding me day in and day out that it is possible.

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      Kenlie
      August 18, 2011 at 6:12 pm

      Hell yes you can do what I do Laurie! You’re great…try to accept it. =)

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    Leslie McClure
    August 19, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    Loved hanging out with you at IDEA, Kenlie. Everyone was so impressed with you and your journey. You are an inspiration. Glad you’re a California girl now!

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      Kenlie
      August 20, 2011 at 1:48 am

      You know I adore you and Jaason! Thanks for inviting me! =0)

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    Britny
    August 20, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    Kenlie!!!!

    You are a rockstar lady!! Loved meeting you!! I can’t wait to read on……….

    Britny Fowler

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