Last week a blogger posing as someone else again (who probably forgot that I had already flagged their IP address) left a mean-spirited message on my blog suggesting that I accept my failures and stop trying to lose weight or give up and have surgery because I have “wasted the last year of my life.”
This person also suggested that I seek therapy (thinking that I’d take that as an insult.) And while I haven’t mentioned therapy in detail, I have mentioned that I am back in therapy, and I think it’s a great idea for anyone who struggles with emotional eating, food addiction, etc. The person sending the nasty messages that went directly to my spam folder could, no doubt, benefit from therapy too.
And one thing that I’ve learned in therapy (over and over again) is that I control my mind. And with that, I have to power to adjust my behavioral habits. And one of the most important things I’ve realized this week is that extraordinary people fail over and over again. Sometimes they fail hundreds of times before they succeed, and sometimes they fail and succeed and fail again and succeed again. And I was inspired by someone who knows all about success and failure this week, Michael Jordan, so I’d like to share of few of my favorite MJ quotes…
“I can accept failure…everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”
“If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”
And most importantly…
“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.”
So while it’s aggravating that people sometimes say harsh things and do harsh things to make themselves feel better and/or just to be cruel, their opinions do not define me. Their opinions define them, and that’s not my problem so I’ll just keep trying to fix me. 😉 This journey has been filled with ups and downs, but it’s far from over so don’t look for me to give up any time soon.