Food For Thought

I’ve been away from the internet more than usual this week, and I’ve discovered something about myself that raises some interesting questions in my mind.

Over the last few days, I’ve been outside of my regular routine. I haven’t been at home, and I’ve spent quite a bit of time with ‘the suit.’ I noticed tonight that when I’m around him I don’t think about food as much. Actually, I really don’t think about it at all unless we’re deciding what to eat.

Earlier tonight I was hungry, but I didn’t crave anything in particular. And at lunch today with friends, we all enjoyed our meal. I just didn’t focus in on the food itself as much as I sometimes (okay, usually) do.

It’s a liberating feeling, and it’s not easy to explain to someone like him who doesn’t struggle with food addiction. Thankfully, he seems to understand my thoughts anyway, and he listens regardless.

When I mentioned it to him, he said that it’s probably because he just doesn’t get excited about food. He likes nice restaurants, and he eats when he’s hungry, etc. He just doesn’t think about it much otherwise. Does anyone else reading this feel that way?  Is that your goal?

It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around this feeling because food has been such an important part of my life for so long, but I like this feeling. Actually, I love it! I love not thinking about it, and if I could bottle up this feeling, I’d do it.

Have you ever experienced something similar?  How would you explain it?

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    June 27, 2012 at 4:48 am

    I would love to not have a negative relationship with food. I am often scared to eat because I know it will start a binge spiral. I guess my goal is to eat to fuel my body, not to fuel my desire to eat.

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    June 27, 2012 at 7:28 am

    I have been working to think of food as fuel only. I wrote about it…

    Somewhere along the lines I got the purpose of food mixed up. I started to think it was entertainments, the base for an evening out, etc. I want to view it as fuel.

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    June 27, 2012 at 7:52 am

    Yes, I have had a similar feeling. When I lost the first 70 pounds I felt a freedom almost. I had never realized how burdened I was by food and waking up each day for 15 years asking “will I diet today or not?” Once I felt I had some control…it was just freeing….that’s the best way I could describe it. I remember thinking what an awesome feeling it was…I gained some of the weight back and that burden…that feeling of no control came back. I’m back on the weight loss path and while I haven’t totally gotten that “free” feeling back I definitely feel a bit more in control.

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    June 27, 2012 at 9:09 am

    My husband doesn’t think about food…ever. He’ll eat what’s put in front of him, and is pretty predictable as to what he’ll order in any given restaurant. I, on the other hand, think about food constantly. Not for want of it, but in “preparation”. When I’m really, really, really watching what I eat, I don’t want to be caught by surprise, so I have to make sure I have some “go-to’s” for my own immediate gratification. Meanwhile, while I’m an artist to begin with, I’m all about presentation, presentation, presentation, and mixing things up with the planned, well thought out meals. I like color, I like texture, I like fitting as many of all those things I’m supposed to be doing for optimal health into each meal…and I want it to taste amazing! So, in some ways I feel freedom because I have the ability, but at the same time I’m obsessed with my digital food scales and journaling what I eat to optimize my once a week weigh-in. I’d rather eat food I have prepared at home than chance going to a restaurant and undoing myself…like Airlie said, I don’t want to fuel my desire to eat…I know it’s still there, and this allows me to control it. It’s not gone, and I’m not fixed by any means. I guess we all find our balance along the way.

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    June 27, 2012 at 9:44 am

    That is such a great feeling, isn’t it? The whole not thinking about food thing. Last weekend was like that for me – I was sitting outside (it was a beautiful day) with the radio on & the dog nearby, no one else was home, working on a project that I’ve been wanting to do for weeks. Next thing I knew, it was 4 pm and I hadn’t had lunch!
    Now only to be like that at work…..I get the boredom munchies there.

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    June 27, 2012 at 11:20 am

    This will sound weird, but the first time I really experienced it was on an antibiotic that somehow totally killed my appetite, and I didn’t even notice it. I went through my day and food wasn’t even in my thoughts, even though I ate here and there when needed, it was so AMAZING. Haven’t really ever captured that feeling again. I’d love to have it as a goal, but I don’t think it’s achievable! 🙂

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    KCLAnderson (Karen)
    June 27, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    This is how I put it: I don’t have to control food and food doesn’t control me. And I’ve experienced this for long periods of time in the past couple of years. This wonderful state of being doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy food or even sometimes craves something, it just means that control isn’t part of it. Earlier this year I was back to letting food control me, but I worked some stuff out and am returning to a that place where control is less of an issue.

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    June 27, 2012 at 5:46 pm

    There are days where all I do is think about food nonstop. Then there are days where I literally don’t remember to eat at all until my bf asks what we’re having for dinner. Neither one is good really. I’d like to be somewhere in the middle ground. Think about food when I’m preparing and eating it, really enjoy it, and push it out of my mind the rest of the time. 🙂

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    June 27, 2012 at 6:00 pm

    Once I started really losing my weight (11o pounds total), I was working out consistently 4-5 nights a week and I was just so damn busy all the time I found that it was so much easier to resist snacking or eating bad foods. I was just too busy. I had that “aha” moment and realized that I ate while bored. I stop putting myself in those situations!

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    Dr. Jennifer
    June 27, 2012 at 6:19 pm

    I’d hazard a guess that you’re probably in love, or at least strong like with this guy and you’re releasing oxytocin, which is inhibiting your desire to eat. That’s the biochemical answer. The human answer is that, when we’re feeling happy and fulfilled, we generally feel less active interest in eating as a coping method. Boredom, sadness, anger, anxiety and exhaustion are usually semi-relieved by eating. Congratulations on being able to escape food obsessions for awhile, especially because something better came along!

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    June 27, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    i’m totally struggle right now with food and weight loss just can’t seem to get it togetehr

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    June 27, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    i’m totally struggle right now with food and weight loss just can’t seem to get it together

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    June 28, 2012 at 1:42 am

    That’s how my hubby is and it’s always blown my mind!!! I’m ALWAYS thinking of when I get to eat next, and for him, food is just… food. It’s fuel. For me it’s like life or death, heaven or hell… you get the picture, haha! I think it’s good for us to be around people that don’t focus on it so much, though sometimes I’m like WHY CAN’T YOU LOVE THIS CUPCAKE AS MUCH AS I DO?! 😉

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    June 28, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    That’s what Marco taught me. Some people just don’t think about food. He’s one of them. It’s helpful to see it in real life. While I may bot have come that way, I’m certainly there now and grateful for him. Wasn’t intentional but he showed me there is another way.

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