Friend Makin’ Mondays: 2013

I cannot believe that today is the last day of 2012. It feels like I blinked, then the year was over.  Does anyone else feel that way?

After a stellar week with my family in Colorado, I’m back home and ready to start the new year!  I’ve never been big on resolutions, but this year I’m making some that I hope to stick to.  I’m excited about creating some positive changes in my life which inspired this week’s FMM post.  Let’s get to it, shall we?

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If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

2013

1. Share one thing that you plan to do for yourself in 2013.  Hmmmm….I plan to do some things I love like traveling and stating my business.

2. Share a good habit that you will continue doing into the new year. I don’t drink sodas, and I am happy to continue not drinking it. I think it’s disgusting, but I’m all about San Pellegrino.

3. Do you make new year’s make resolutions? If so, do you typically stick to them? I don’t usually do it, but this year I plan to curb my cursing. I won’t quit completely because sometimes blurting out a curse word feels awesome. I’m just going to try to cut back a lot.  I also plan to speak to my mom with more respect.  Most people who know me would describe me as laid back and literal (definitely not sarcastic,) but Mom takes a lot of flack from me.  She loves me more than anyone else on earth, and she should be treated with the utmost respect even though we don’t agree on everything.

4. Do you have any health goals for the new year? I want to get my food addictions under control again this year. If you read my blog then you know it has been a big struggle for too long. I’ll start with January and go from there.

5. Share one thing that you plan to do in January. I’m seeing Lance in mid-January. :)

6. Do you have any travel plans for the coming year? If so, where are you most excited to go? I’m excited to go to the regular places like NY, CO and OK, but I’m also looking forward to visiting Oregon and Nebraska and heading back to the Caribbean.

7. What are your plans for New Year’s Eve? I flew home just in time to spend it in New Orleans…just a small gathering of friends with champagne and a little Anderson Cooper, of course.

8. What are your resolutions for 2013? See #3.  I suppose I jumped the gun answering this one above.

9. What are you looking forward to most over the next 12 months? Hmmm….I have some exciting plans, but I’m looking forward to awesome, unexpected things. When I look back at the last couple of years it was the things I wasn’t expecting that made life incredible.

10. Share something unique that you hope to do in 2013. I’d like to see the Dalai Lama speak at my school’s graduation. I’m a student at Tulane, but I’m not graduating this year so I’m not sure if I’ll find a way or not. I’ll definitely try.  I also want to get a puppy!

 

Now it’s your turn to answer this week’s questions!  Don’t forget to come back and link up in the comments, and say hi to someone new!  Happy New Year!!!!!!!

Simple Things

The day after Christmas is never as much fun as Christmas Day, but I’m still with my family so I’m happy.

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We had a white Christmas complete with freezing temperatures, and good times. After opening presents and eating an incredible lunch, we all went to the movies together. It continued to snow so we spent the evening inside.

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Hannah and I snuggled for a while before going to her room to play and read books. I love being with her, and I wish I had as much energy as she does every day. I plan to work on that in the coming year.

My holiday was simple, but I was surrounded by my family and snowflakes. I am thankful for my life and the people I love.  We have a lot planned over the next few days, and I’m looking forward to all of it.

How was your holiday?

Friend Makin’ Mondays: Fill in the Blanks

I hope everyone is enjoying the holidays so far!  I’m heading to Colorado today, and I cannot wait to spend the next several days with my family.  Being with my family is great, and spending time with my niece is one of my favorite things to do!

Many of us will have busy days today so let’s just get right to it!

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If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

Fill in the Blanks

1. I want to...wear high heels without worrying about stumbling.

2.  I’ve never…jumped out of an airplane!

3. I believe…I can make significant progress with weight-loss over the next twelve months.

4. My mind often wonders…whether or not I can break into the 280’s and why I struggle to do it so much.

5. Last night I dreamed that…Lance came to see me on Christmas Eve.  It was a possibility, but we opted for a longer visit in January.

6. This morning for breakfast I ate…a pumkin vanilla smoothie.

7. My love life is…more interesting now than it has been in a while.

8. I enjoy…good company.

9. When I was a child I used to…sing in the choir at school.

10. When I’m in the kitchen I…want to bake.  I love to decorate sweet treats.

11. My favorite exercise is...swimming or biking.

12. When I travel I…pack too much!

13. My friends would tell you that I am…crafty, considerate, dramatic (sometimes) and fun.

14.  If I had to eat at a fast food restaurant today I would choose…Chick-fil-a.

15. My favorite…animal is the cocker spaniel.

16. My home is…small and adorable and perfect for me.

17. I read…many books.  I love to read, and I’d like to find something riveting to read over my Christmas break.  Any suggestions?

18. The last movie I saw was…a Christmas movie on the Hallmark Channel, of course.

19. Music makes me feel…emotional.  Whether it’s happy or sad, music makes me feel things that words can’t always express.

20. All I want for Christmas is…what I already have…to be surrounded by people who love me.

 

Now it’s your turn to answer this week’s questions!  Don’t forget to come back and link up in the comments! Merry Christmas!!!!!!!

 

If It’s the End of the World I Guess I Can Tell You…

According to the Mayans, the world will end today.  If that’s going to happen then I suppose I can share some things that I’ve been keeping to myself.

– Kelly Kapowski from Saved by the Bell is my favorite TV character of all time.  Tiffani Thiessen is still gorgeous now as Elizabeth in White Collar! :)

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– I sing The Star Spangled Banner almost every time I take a shower.  Sometimes I sing it twice. :)

– Lance is an amazing kisser.

– My heart still flutters when I hear “I’ll Be Loving You Forever” by the New Kids on the Block.


– I love getting comments on my blog, but I censor them.  Sometimes people are mean; I can’t control that, but I don’t let them do it here anymore.

In addition to sharing these things I also have to say that I’ll be disappointed if I never get to see Les Miserables in the movie theater.   Just saying…

Do you think the world will end today?

 

 

Counting My Blessings

The last several days have been a bit emotional for me, and I’m finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  Even when things come up that stress me out, I realize that I have many reasons to be thankful, and sometimes reflecting on those things makes everything else feel better.

I’m blessed with a home that I love.  I’ve waited to feel this content for a long, long time.  It feels good to enjoy my living space, and it’s fun spending time simply enjoying my own company.   Earlier this week I spent all day at home – a rarity for me – knitting, crafting, watching Christmas movies and relaxing.

I am also thankful for the love that my family always gives me.  This year has been filled with growth for me.  I’ve expressed a lot of feelings and emotions, and I’ve received unconditional love in return.  I’m looking forward to spending next week with all of them!  It sounds like we’ll have a white Christmas too which is already making me giddy! :)

Going back to school has also been an incredible source of blessings.  I’ve made friends, and I’ve expanded my knowledge base.  When I walked into the school a year ago I knew it was probably a smart move, but I had no idea that it would be so good for me.

I mentioned making friends through school, but I’ve been blessed to make other friends this year too.  I’ve shared my history – the good stuff and the regrets, and I’ve been accepted, loved and not judged.  That’s a pretty powerful blessing!

I’m also thankful that I’ll get to see Lance again in a couple of weeks.  He’s easy to talk to, and I never have to wonder how he feels because he’s not afraid to show it.   Originally, we considered seeing each other while I’m in Colorado next week, but he has decided to come back to New Orleans in January instead.  I’ll have something else to look forward to when I return home, and that’s awesome.

I’m blessed with a strong body that is capable of losing the next 100 pounds when my mind is ready, and I’m so utterly thankful that each day and each decision we make brings another opportunity to get it right.

I’m blessed with a lot of little things that make life sweet too.  I love the view from my windows, and the evening doorman at my building always has a smile on his face.  I’m blessed with food to sustain me and clothes (and beautiful slippers courtesy of Lance) that keep me warm.  My list wouldn’t be complete with mentioning the hobbies that make me happy.  Whether it’s singing a song, knitting a scarf or a bag, making a wreath (okay, many wreaths) or creating a weekly calendar, I find myself easily entertained.  I feel blessed to love many things!

My list could be much longer, but I’m sleepy.  Right now I’m thankful for flannel sheets and my bed.  Reflecting on the blessings in my life is usually a powerful way to remind myself that it’s okay to be happy even when things aren’t perfect.  Whether you comment or not, I urge you to take a few minutes  to think about why you’re blessed.

 

 

 

Gym Update

After almost a week of putting off what I knew I needed to do, I went to the gym to discuss what happened by the pool.  I found several reasons not to go, but I began feeling better about it when I finally did.

It was my hope that the folks in charge would show empathy, and they didn’t let me down.  I spoke to the manager who seemed genuinely concerned.  He let me tell him everything.  He even hugged me when I cried a little.  (Who knew I’d still be so emotional about it so long after it occurred?)

He suggested that I speak to the director too so I did that last night.  And just like the manager, he was incredibly supportive.  He made it absolutely clear that he wants the people working out in his gym to feel safe and comfortable and confident, and after a conversation that lasted for almost an hour, I walked away feeling confident about my choice to continue my membership there.

I’ll see how it goes over the next month, and if I have concerns or issues I’ll feel comfortable making them aware of them.  That’s important to me, and it felt as though it was important to them too. I know they can’t control what people say or do inside the club, but they did make it clear that I won’t have to put up with people taking pictures of me while I’m working out.  That part is most important to me .  I’ll deal with the rest, and I’ll move forward confidently.

On a side note: Someone here reached out to EFC on my behalf.  While I was surprised to hear it, I’d like to say thank you to whoever took the time to do that.  You didn’t have to, and I appreciate you.

After the gym, I did some Christmas shopping before coming home to get some things done.  I have a lot to do before I head to Colorado for Christmas.  My plan for today is to participate in a Zumba class before lunch.

What are your plans for the rest of the week?  What kind of workout will you do today?

 

Friend Makin’ Mondays: Twelve in 2012

It’s Monday, and I’m officially on Christmas break.  I don’t go back to school until the middle of January which feels odd, but I have some fun things planned before that.  I did some cool things over the weekend too, but I’ll talk about that later.

A week from now I will be at my sister’s house in Colorado where I’ll spend Christmas with my whole family.  I also hope to see Lance during my break, and I’m looking forward to relaxing a little too.

I’ve been debating whether or not to post FMM next Monday or not.  It’s Christmas Eve, and I’ll be happy to schedule a post.  Will anyone participate if I do?  Should I skip the post instead?  Please give me your opinion in the comments. :)

Can you believe the year is almost over?  As I reflect on the last twelve months I’m amazed by how much my life has changed.  I hoped it would be a year of rebuilding and positive growth, and it has been.  I’m so thankful for the changes that I’ve made, and I’m looking forward to the future!

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How do you feel about 2012?  Let’s discuss it, shall we?

Now…If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

Twelve in 2012

 

1. What was your greatest personal accomplishment in 2012?  I accomplished a few cool things this year, but the biggest accomplishment was probably going back to school.

2. What’s the best thing your did for your health?  I still don’t drink sodas or any kind, and that’s still one of the healthiest things I’ve ever done for myself.  I have to work on being as consistent with everything else, but I’m really proud of that because there was a time when not drinking sodas seemed impossible.  Now it’s just a way of life.

3. Share one thing that caused a significant change in your life this year.  I moved into my own little apartment.  Living alone has been great so far!

4. List a few things that you experienced for the first time at some point over the last twelve months.  

– I drank a hurricane at Pat O’Briens in the French Quarter with my sister and brother in law.

– Dr. Drew told me I was beautiful when I was on his show on Headline News.

– I did my first plank!

– I sat in the front row at a Broadway show.

 

5. What was the coolest place you visited? I was in New York more than a few times which felt great just like it always does.

6. If you could change one thing about the last year what would it be?  I would have eaten out less.  Eating out several times a week is an expensive habit, but I’m planning to do it less in the coming year.  I like eating at home now that I can cook in my own kitchen.

7. What is the best meal you ate this year? (Can you tell I’m hungry as I write this?)  Hmmm, the meal that came to mind first was the steak and lobster with creamed spinach that I ate at Ben and Jack’s in NY.

8. Tell us about a new friend you made.  I made several friends this year through school so I can’t even attempt to narrow it down to one.  I met Clint (aka The Suit) and Matt, Joelle, Shannon, Debbie, Joe, Daniel, Ally, Gina and many other wonderful people.  I also met Lance, and I couldn’t be more thankful for all of them.

9. What did you hope to accomplish this year that you did not?  I wanted to be significantly smaller by this time, but I didn’t put in the effort to make that happen.  I put a lot of effort into bettering my life, and I have.  I still need to make my health my top priority so I can enjoy the life that I love so much right now.

10. Share something you learned in 2012.  I learned that I’m happier with my life when I don’t let my emotions control me.

11. Share an odd and unexpected thing that you experienced this year.  I was in the news a lot again this year, but I think it’s funny that I was featured in a famous tabloid magazine.

12. How do you think 2013 will differ from 2012?  I think it will be different in significant ways.  I hope to make weight-loss my focus so I can be noticeably smaller by this time next year.  I also think I’ll have a boyfriend.  I dated a lot in 2012, but I didn’t have a romantic relationship with anyone until recently.  I think I’ll travel somewhere that I’ve never been to, and I’m strongly considering getting a puppy.  I think I’m going to attempt to start my own business too so the upcoming year could be filled with changes too.

 

Now it’s your turn!  Don’t forget to come back and link up in the comments!  Also please take a moment to let me know whether or not you think I should post FMM next week on Christmas Eve!  Your opinions matter to me so don’t be shy; just be kind.

Happy Monday, dear ones…I’m thankful for you.

More on the Gym and Some Other Stuff

I was preoccupied with some stressful things today and did not make time to go the gym to discuss the contents of my last post, but my plan is to do it tomorrow morning after a solid night of sleep.  I dread going in to resign from my membership, and I have given a lot of thought to the advice and opinions you shared yesterday.

I’ll decide what to do when I speak to someone there, but it’s important to note that it’s not the only gym in New Orleans.  It’s expensive, and I want to be a member of a gym that provides a healthy enviroment for its members.  I don’t need anyone to pat me on the back, but I won’t pay $80 a month to be bullied either.  My plan is to go in and respectfully explain that and see how the people at Elmwood Fitness react.

It’s still finals week too, and I have two finals tomorrow as well.  I had one Monday and one today, and I’m ready for a break.  I have a long list of things to do that don’t include school, and I’m looking forward to getting started on those tasks.

In the midst of preparing for finals I’ve also managed to have some fun with friends.  Matt, Shannon and I finished out two-day gingerbread home yesterday, and while it looks like kids did it we love it.  We made it from scratch and had a great time together doing it.

I baked cookies for one of my classes tomorrow as well, and I managed to avoid eating many of them.  I had one and a half, and I feel good about my food choices today.  My goal for tomorrow is to eat more vegetables and to drink more water.

What’s your goal for Thursday?

How Would You Handle This?

I joined a new gym, Elmwood Fitness Center, a few weeks ago, and I love the gym. I do not love the way I was treated on my third trip to the gym, and I have avoided going back since. I didn’t realize how much it bothered me until I drove up to workout yesterday afternoon.

I had my gym bag and everything that I needed to workout, but I convinced myself not to go in. I didn’t want to be mocked like I was last time I was there.

While swimming a mile in the pool I was mocked by a woman who snapped a couple of pics of me on her phone. She told me that I wasn’t doing myself any good swimming that slowly, and my response to her was that I was doing a lot more than she was.

If you read my blog you know that I have endured more than my fair share of hurtful words from strangers who think I’m worthless because I’m overweight. I experienced during my first few experiences in New York City, and I didn’t go back to that gym for a long time either.

I only used my free trial a few times, and now I’m paying for a membership that’s far from inexpensive that I don’t use. I think I’ve decided to go in and cancel my membership tomorrow, but I think that sucks for a few reasons:

1. I need a gym, and this one is conveniently located. There’s a branch close to my school and one close to my apartment.

2. I can swim laps outside all year because this is Louisiana and the pools are heated. There’s a pool inside too for days like today in which it’s too cold to be outside.

3. There are Zumba classes and a lot of other classes. I loved doing Zumba and looked forward to doing it a few times a week.

4. It’s big, and the staff is really friendly.

5. There’s a lot of space to shower and get dressed after my workout which means I can do it before school too.

I have allowed myself to miss out on something positive for myself because of something negative that someone did. The easy answer is “brush it off. Go back and forget about that person.” But doing that is exhausting. Google me, and you’ll see what I have a lot of experience in “brushing it off.”

My gym should be a place where I can go and sweat like an animal without being ridiculed. It should be a safe place, shouldn’t it?

My plan is to go in tomorrow to cancel my membership and to make membership aware of why I don’t plan to go back. I think they should know even if it doesn’t matter to them.

What would you do? Would you brush it off, or would you take issue with it? How would you resolve it and convince yourself to go back?

Update: I’m not saying that I’ll abandon all gyms. I have to have one, but if I’m paying $80 per month I expect to be in a place in which I am not harassed.

Holiday Temptations, Or Why I’m Not Waiting Until the New Year…

I know it’s silly to be excited about two stellar days of eating, but I’m really happy about it.  I resisted cravings again yesterday, and the scale has already shown a noticeable drop as a result.  I even resisted snacking on all of the treats my friends and I had while constructing our gingerbread home.

We won’t complete it until tonight so I’ll have another  opportunity to resist temptation today.  Of course, it’s the season of temptation, and I’d like to come out healthier and lighter than I was going into it.

Sunday I posted pictures of everything I ate on Facebook   I realize it’s obnoxious, but it’s not the only pointless thing I see posted on Facebook. :)  My goal today is to eat like I did Sunday and yesterday, and my favorite part of it all is the new McCormick seasoning I’ve been using this week.

I seasoned my chicken breast with Cuban seasoning from their gourmet collection  and it is amazing! I bought it on sale a few weeks ago, and I had no idea I’d love it as much as I do.  It transformed my salad of mixed greens, sugar snap peas and English cucumbers.

I’m also having a love affair with hummus again, and I’m looking forward to dipping veggies in it again today.  I like the peas, but I’m also a big fan of raw bell peppers.  I found minis at the supermarket last night, and they’re going to be outstanding.

Sometimes it’s difficult to remember simple facts that make my life easier, but I’m trying!  I know that when I eat healthy things my body feels good.  I also know that when I make wise choices I feel good about myself.

I realize that a few good days can’t erase my careless indulgences, but I also know that those days have come and gone.  I know that with every breath I take comes an opportunity to make a choice that will make me healthier and happier.  I know that it’s my responsibility and that no one else can do it for me.

I know I’ve wasted time, and I know that the holidays are tough.  I also know that there’s no better time than now to make mindful changes.

It’s obviously a struggle, but I’m more honest and aware of what I want now than I have been in years.  As I said in a post recently I’ve accomplished some things this year that have held me back for a long, long time.  Making solid food choices and exercising are an important part of my personal puzzle, and I like the way it makes me feel so I’m going to do it again today.

What are you doing that makes you feel good today?