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Gym Update

After almost a week of putting off what I knew I needed to do, I went to the gym to discuss what happened by the pool.  I found several reasons not to go, but I began feeling better about it when I finally did.

It was my hope that the folks in charge would show empathy, and they didn’t let me down.  I spoke to the manager who seemed genuinely concerned.  He let me tell him everything.  He even hugged me when I cried a little.  (Who knew I’d still be so emotional about it so long after it occurred?)

He suggested that I speak to the director too so I did that last night.  And just like the manager, he was incredibly supportive.  He made it absolutely clear that he wants the people working out in his gym to feel safe and comfortable and confident, and after a conversation that lasted for almost an hour, I walked away feeling confident about my choice to continue my membership there.

I’ll see how it goes over the next few months, and if I have concerns or issues I’ll feel comfortable making them aware of them.  That’s important to me, and it felt as though it was important to them too. I know they can’t control what people say or do inside the club, but they did make it clear that I won’t have to put up with people taking pictures of me while I’m working out.  That part is most important to me .  I’ll deal with the rest, and I’ll move forward confidently.

On a side note: Someone here reached out to EFC on my behalf.  While I was surprised to hear it, I’d like to say thank you to whoever took the time to do that.  You didn’t have to, and I appreciate you.

After the gym, I did some Christmas shopping before coming home to get some things done.  I have a lot to do before I head to Colorado for Christmas.  My plan for today is to participate in a Zumba class before lunch.

What are your plans for the rest of the week?  What kind of workout will you do today?


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    December 19, 2012 at 7:17 am

    I’m so glad to hear the gym’s response was positive and supportive as it should be. The picture thing is so strange to me. I guess I am just too busy at the gym to be snapping pictures of perfect strangers. Well good for you Kenlie for letting the management know about the situation and for deciding to stay there. Enjoy your Zumba class. As for my plans well I have yoga today. My goal is to get all my gifts wrapped tonight since I will be working the next 7 nights straight. Have a safe trip to Colorado and wonderful holidays.

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    December 19, 2012 at 7:55 am

    I’m so glad you had a positive experience. One day I hope to open my own gym and making sure people feel welcome and comfortable is very important to me.

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    December 19, 2012 at 8:07 am

    I am so happy that you spoke to them and especially happy that you are staying with them. People are cruel and those are the ones you must ignore. You are doing great and keep up the fantastic work. You deserve the best.

    Good luck with getting everything done for Christmas, I too am in the same boat, seems a bit overwhelming but no matter what we get it done….right??

    many hugs,

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    December 19, 2012 at 8:27 am

    This update makes me happy. 🙂

    Nice to have reminders that there are still good people in the world.

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    December 19, 2012 at 9:18 am

    I’m so glad you went and spoke to the managers. I’m even more excited that they did the right thing and are supporting you in any way they can. Enjoy your trip and have a fantastic Christmas! xoxo

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    December 19, 2012 at 9:27 am

    I am so glad that your gym is working with you and that you have decided to maintain your membership. Proud of you as you continue to inspire!!

    Happy Holidays and safe travels to CO!

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    Carly T
    December 19, 2012 at 9:30 am

    I don’t comment a lot, but I just wanted to say good for you for not letting one very rude person ruin the gym for you!

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    December 19, 2012 at 9:48 am

    Yay! That’s great 🙂

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    December 19, 2012 at 10:19 am

    I’m so glad to hear the response from management was favorable & professional! I hear you on putting off difficult, confrontational type things. Especially something painful like that. Ow. Glad you followed through. I guess blogging about it may have helped motivate.
    I wish you a very Merry Christmas, safe travels, and a wonderful time with fam & friends. Chrissy

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    December 19, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    I am so happy to hear that they listened to you! There is absolutely no reason why that person should have treated you like dirt, and taken a picture, too. I sincerely hope this is the end of it and that you will not have to deal with anymore crap from members at this gym!

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    Evil Pixie
    December 19, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    Good for you! I’m so happy you took the step forward to contact the gym about your recent experience. I’m also happy they responded they did. It was a brave step you took, and their response to your experience was a good reward for that bravery. Good for them!

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    December 19, 2012 at 1:18 pm

    I started reading your blog about a month ago . You have been an inspiration to me ! I have always been someone to shy away from confrontation , and I was happy to hear that you went back to the gym to let them know about the situation . Very brave ! Thank you for sharing your journey with us !

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    December 19, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    We got your back girl, much love and best wishes for a fabulous Christmas!!

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    Sheila K
    December 19, 2012 at 2:14 pm

    Sounds like they were kind to you, that’s good. At least you can feel like you can give it another go. I’m not sure how I would handle your situation. I read what you typed a few days ago, but didn’t have time to type a response..life has me spinning right now. We’re moving to Indy…2 hours away .. and I’m going to need to look for a new gym. I’m anxious about changing…I love the people where I’m at and I am a creature of habit. I’d like to stay away from the bigger chains because they tend to have more rude gym rats, but I may not have a choice. Hope things get much better and you can work out in peace. Merry Christmas. Stay strong.

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    Barbara B
    December 19, 2012 at 3:54 pm

    Very proud of you! And happy to hear they were supportive (as they should be).

    I hope you’ll have many wonderful hours and experiences there in the weeks/months to come.

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    Grace @ Grace Dishes
    December 19, 2012 at 4:23 pm

    I think it’s so amazing that you stood up for yourself and your right to feel comfortable at the gym. I’ve been known to stomach my discomfort because I embarrass easily. I need to learn to be a bit more firm.

    Hope you have a wonderful week and good luck with everything!

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    Shelley B
    December 19, 2012 at 4:30 pm

    Glad they were supportive and that you’ll continue at the gym there. Rock on with Zumba! I love it!

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    Eric Van De Ven
    December 19, 2012 at 4:40 pm

    I am glad it worked out for you. I still can’t quite believe that someone did what they did to you in the first place. Keep working and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy, Healthy New Year!

    As for a workout, nothing until January..still waiting for my shoulder to heal. 🙁

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    Sylvie @ StruggleswithaFatA
    December 19, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    I am so happy to see this update. Good for you!

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    Tracy aka Tiny Tank
    December 19, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    Hi, I am so happy to hear a positive update and I am so proud of your courage to go forward and stand up for what is right for you. It would have been hard for me to speak to two different men about something so personal and emotional. I am impressed in your commitment to yourself. Way to go!

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    December 21, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    A friend of mine (Anna) told me about your experience at EFC in which I am also a member. I am so sorry you had such an ugly experience. If you ever want a workout buddy I would love to go with you!

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    December 31, 2012 at 5:12 pm

    I am so glad your gym was so supportive! It seems to me that there should be a rule against taking photos of others at the gym. It’s OK if you take a photo of yourself, or permit someone else to do it, but randomly taking a photo of someone else is just creepy. And that woman is completely insensitive and disrespectful. I’ve often wondered what others’ impression is of me when I work out or go running. But I try to bury those negative thoughts, as hard as it is at times, and realize that I’m working on my fitness, which should be a good thing and not something I should be made to feel badly about. I’m so glad you’re planning to go back to your gym. No one should have the power to drive you away from there, or make you feel badly about yourself! Carry on, girl!

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