More on the Gym and Some Other Stuff

I was preoccupied with some stressful things today and did not make time to go the gym to discuss the contents of my last post, but my plan is to do it tomorrow morning after a solid night of sleep.  I dread going in to resign from my membership, and I have given a lot of thought to the advice and opinions you shared yesterday.

I’ll decide what to do when I speak to someone there, but it’s important to note that it’s not the only gym in New Orleans.  It’s expensive, and I want to be a member of a gym that provides a healthy enviroment for its members.  I don’t need anyone to pat me on the back, but I won’t pay $80 a month to be bullied either.  My plan is to go in and respectfully explain that and see how the people at Elmwood Fitness react.

It’s still finals week too, and I have two finals tomorrow as well.  I had one Monday and one today, and I’m ready for a break.  I have a long list of things to do that don’t include school, and I’m looking forward to getting started on those tasks.

In the midst of preparing for finals I’ve also managed to have some fun with friends.  Matt, Shannon and I finished out two-day gingerbread home yesterday, and while it looks like kids did it we love it.  We made it from scratch and had a great time together doing it.

I baked cookies for one of my classes tomorrow as well, and I managed to avoid eating many of them.  I had one and a half, and I feel good about my food choices today.  My goal for tomorrow is to eat more vegetables and to drink more water.

What’s your goal for Thursday?

12 thoughts on “More on the Gym and Some Other Stuff

  1. You have every right to feel comfortable in your gym. I used to avoid going to the gym in college because it felt like only the thin and lean went. I felt so out of place.

    Good luck with everything! The gingerbread house is beautiful!

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  2. By quitting the gym , you give the power to the person who did the wrong thing. Life is full of people like that. You cannot change them, you can only change your reaction and behavior.

    I hope you’ll consider learning new coping techniques. You are young and it would benefit your personal and business relationships.

    Good luck and I hope you take this opportunity to grow.

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  3. While it is entirely up to you whether you decide to leave this gym or not, I strongly encourage you to notify management of what occurred. As someone pointed out in response to you previous post, this woman violated the rules of the gym. Even if you can’t or don’t want to identify her, perhaps you could suggest to the gym’s management that they remind members (by e-mail, for instance) that taking pictures of fellow members without their permission is not permitted. It would also be appropriate to apply sanctions to such people.

    I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to remain physically active. This, and not dieting, is perhaps the most important thing you can do for you health.

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  4. Good luck with the gym situation. I hope that those in charge take you and your membership seriously. I love your homemade gingerbread house. I never thought to use mini marshmallows – my kids would have loved that!

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  5. Will be interesting to see how they respond. It would be nice to see something like this not be tolerated and they get the boot. I hope they don’t have deaf ears.

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  6. My daughter and I did a ginger bread house for the first time last year, and she is 21! Guess we started a tradition a little late, but now we can continue it, and enjoy a little Holiday Cheer while we create! I encourage you to stay at the gym if you love everything else about it! I am so sorry you had that experience. There truly are some terrible people out there that are completely clueless to how their selfish actions can hurt people. I admire you and your determination! Good luck, and I look forward to reading the outcome. Thinking of you!

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  7. I think you should quit. I disagree with Karen, there’s no reason to put up with bullying and a bullying accepted atmosphere. It’s not going to make you a stronger person, it’s gong to make you feel sh*tty. Life’s too short. I belong to the local YMCA. It’s not fancy, but boyaah there are all kinds of body types there. And, a very welcoming environment.

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  8. I weigh well over 200 lbs and have worked out with a trainer for the last 2 months. I go to a big fancy gym with all races, creeds, colors, body types, exercise intentions. in it’s members. When I’m sweating and huffing and red faced and about to die and embarrased, I’ll catch the eye of someone and I sometimes get a look of respect. It may be a subtle chin up kind of motion or a wink but it’s clear. Tonight the trainer had me running around holding 25 lb weights over my head and popping down in to planks and back up to run some more. Some guy, don’t even know who he was passed me and said ‘you are doing girl. I see you!”. As far as I could see I was working out harder than most of the people there. And they can’t take that from me.
    …The thing is, I think this can happen at any gym just like a total arsehole could be at any gym taking photos and making fun of you. …
    I’m so sorry that happened to you .

    I hope you will talk with the staff and they will respond in a way that assures you. If it is where you want to work out then stay but if it just doesn’t work out then go.

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    • ok let me add …to be clear and another thought….that guy said “you are doing it girl..I see you “! meaning I’m impressed. I’ve had that happen to me at gyms before and it makes me feel better , a little embarrassed maybe.

      I now go to Zumba classes regularly and there are several people quite bigger than me..all shapes and sizes really in that class and I found myself wanting to say something to another person that I was glad that she was there and working out. Ikin the end I didn’t do that , but I started talking to her and now we talk whenever we run in to each other amongst the machines. Just a couple of zumba gals that just happen to be fat. And I like that kind of –normalcey too.

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