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Super Bowl XLVII Events, and a Little Chat About Hatred

Blogging has been taxing for me lately, and I have been weighing whether or not I should  continue blogging.  This is what I posted on Facebook yesterday,

“After nearly four years of friendship, accountability and expression, I have to face the fact that the hatred and vitriol seem to have taken over. I no longer know how to move forward with my blog which has been ‘my closest friend.'”

Though the amount of hate mail I receive has lessened over all, the messages are exceedingly alarming.  Note to readers: If you wish I was dead, feel free to not read my blog.  I’m alive and well, and though your hatred shakes me up occasionally, I’m not going to let you decide whether I blog or not. And speaking of blogging…

I’ve had a stellar week so far, and there’s still a lot of fun coming up.  I spent the day in the French Quarter at ESPN earlier this week.  The Suit came with me, and we had a great time.  We saw Eli Manning and others up close, and he was so humble even when the cameras weren’t rolling.  It was so cool to see that.

Eli

ESPN

I’m heading back to ESPN today before going to a tail gate party in the afternoon.  Tonight I’m heading to a live VH1 concert to see Train perform, and over the weekend we’re going to some CNN events and the NFL’s tailgate party where I’ll get to see Drew Brees, Peyton Manning, Darren Sproles and more.

I can’t make the trolls go away, but I can tell you that I’m happy (most of the time) in spite of them.  My social media presence has taken a hit, but my everyday life is going well.  I feel fulfilled, lucky and proud to be doing the things I’m doing with my life.

Somewhere along the line losing weight got hard for me, and I have never pretended otherwise.  But my life is about more than that, and while it’s still important to me, it’s not the only important thing.  I’ve gone through major changes, emotional growth and a variety of other important things that have made my life better.

I’m not making excuses for myself, but you have to know that if you choose to read about my life, then you need understand that I’m trying to make it a good one for myself.  Maybe I’m not winning every battle with flying colors, but I’m happy, loved and determined.  Isn’t that what we’re all fighting for?

 

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    mary
    February 1, 2013 at 2:59 am

    i am always shocked at how others feel it is their right to tell another what they should do, what they want them to do, and just be plain mean.
    ” i wish you were dead” REALLY? i mean come on…these people have some deep resentment to something in their life they are trying to put on you , who they don’t even know. they need help, good lord do they need help. hatred and anger do no good.
    honestly, kenlie, i enjoy reading your blog and being your friend on facebook. it is a funny thing you know, once you get to following someone and you develop a little relationship (not to get weird cyber creepy , but you know what i mean) that you miss when someone is not around , and you care about what is happening in their life. like when i read to my husband that you were at the espn gig….yeah he said “why can’t you be better friends with her and we could be there right now” hahaha….hugs kenlie you are so loved xoxo

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    V
    February 1, 2013 at 3:00 am

    Dear Kenlie,

    I normally never comment on the blogs I read, however, your last post has compelled me to write you. Please don’t let the haters win, you are a great and important inspiration to many of your readers, i am sure.

    Cheers from Germany
    V

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    Toni
    February 1, 2013 at 3:20 am

    I really enjoy reading your blog Kenlie . Please dont leave us , and please dont let mean , stupid people take away any good , joyful thing from your life !!

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    Aimee
    February 1, 2013 at 7:47 am

    I’m astounded at the things people say to you. I’m sorry that you have to endure that Kenlie. I can understand your ambivalence toward blogging right now. Whatever you decide I wish you nothing but happiness. However, if you do decide to step away from the blog you will be missed my many.

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    Shelladawn
    February 1, 2013 at 8:02 am

    Like the previous ladies comments I also am appalled/shocked/effing annoyed at the people who feel the need to write these evil comments to you. They must really have sad pathetic lonely lives to vent their anger towards you. They are jealous. You are loved, admired and have MANY fans from all over the world. Life has ups and downs, and I like reading about your life in general as well as your weight loss efforts. I hope you continue. Love from an Australian fan living in the middle of the outback, literally! xxx

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    Trixie
    February 1, 2013 at 8:54 am

    I read your blog often, but have only commented once – about how kick-ass fit you are, whether or not you have reached your weight loss goal. I enjoy reading and am often inspired by your thoughts and commitment.

    Would you consider making your blog private, thereby being able to accept readers – and block them if they are inappropriate?

    Many of us really enjoy your blog and hope you continue if it can still be a positive thing for you.

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      Emlg11
      February 1, 2013 at 5:57 pm

      This is my vote as well. I’m not a blogger so I don’t know how you go about doing that, but I hate to see your stories and inspiration go away.

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        Julie
        February 4, 2013 at 9:00 am

        Ditto!!

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      Colette
      February 6, 2013 at 9:17 am

      Ditto here as well! Don’t know if that is possible, but private might be the way to go. Regardless, you need to do what’s best for you and if that’s continuing with your blog, I hope you find a way to do that!

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    dad
    February 1, 2013 at 11:03 am

    Never lose sight of the fact that there are people who have no self worth, that try to gain some by putting others down.
    I’ve had people say to my face,”I wish you were dead”, “I hope you get cancer and die an agonizing death”. They are insignificant, pathetic excuses of human kind, not worthy of my acknowledgement.
    I know the jabs hurt. Just remeber who you are and where you are headed and don’t forget how far you’ve come.

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      Shelladawn
      February 2, 2013 at 12:47 am

      What the hell is the matter with these people that they would say these evil things to anybody? It angers me, but also makes me feel sad for them. They are truly pathetic. Come on down to Australia, that sort of crap is not tolerated here!

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      Tracy
      February 6, 2013 at 12:17 am

      Kenlie ~ Mr. Tiggeman

      I always love reading your blog post…and love the fact that your Dad always has great words of wisdom!

      Tracy

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    Amanda @ Click. The Good News
    February 1, 2013 at 11:17 am

    Wow- I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had some nastiness flung your way lately. The older I get the less tolerance I have for that & I’m trying in small ways, in my everyday real life, to make sure I don’t contribute to that type of small, narrow, hateful thinking in any way. Brene Brown helped me realize that even sarcasm and snarky comments really take us away from wholehearted living. I catch myself trying to be more kind & thoughtful these days, but haters are going to hate. Glad you can let it roll off your back- have fun at the super bowl!

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    Diana McAdams
    February 1, 2013 at 11:53 am

    Maybe a private blog is the way to go. I just cannot understand why anyone would find the need to be hateful or threatening to anyone…especially because they don’t like the way we look…how hurtful, scary and downright p–sing me off right now !
    I have struggled with weight my whole life and am now 64 …still struggling. Have trouble walking and balancing well most and am heartsick over it. On Medifast now and am hopeful, but it is a hard thing in a social world to not be able to eat like other people.
    And people think we choose to stay like this ? Guess I did, in some ways, but it was NOT for lack of trying. Maybe I started too late to be successful…don’t know. But I, for one, will never open myself up to hateful people who have not walked this journey !!

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    Eleonora
    February 1, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    Hi Kenly, I love to read your blog, please don’t stop !

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    Ronalda
    February 1, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    i’m so sorry you get hate mail. I find what you do to be so brave and hats off to your girl. You are an inspiration and some people don’t like to see others progress or even try- straight HATERATION.

    You are AWESOME!

    Keep strong girl! hugs xox0

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    Erin@ LivingMadeHealthy
    February 1, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    I’m so sorry that people are so hatefully. You are a light in this dark world. You should haven’t have to deal with that kind of crap.

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    ● C E L I N A ●
    February 1, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    I love your blog, I never really comment, but love the updates and motivation. I hope you keep going for yourself and no one else.

    ♥ Celina

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    Lori
    February 1, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    Kenlie, I want to just hug you. Yes, I think we’re all fighting for the same thing. Everyone wants to be happy and loved. We definitely will not win every battle. But with hardwork and endurance, you will win the fight. And it’s not about the number on the scale. It’s about you LOVING YOU.

    Kadesh tay (from my heart to yours)
    Lori

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    Alesha P
    February 1, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    I think you are totally awesome and an inspiration. I admire you for putting it all out there and for touching people’s lives every day. I look forward to your blog daily!! Haters gonna hate (LOL…teen slang, gotta love it). I am sure it is hard to read ugly emails/comments from others…but please never lose sight of who you are and let them get you down. You ROCK girl!

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    Denise Reno
    February 1, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    Hi Kenlie,
    I am very pained to hear of the nastiness and cruelty of people towards you. I just wanted to let you know that I have come to really enjoy your messages of inspiration and support. I haven’t been following you long but I have found that I rather enjoy reading your blog. Ultimately it is your decision but I hope you do stay. I wish you all the best in all that you do.

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    Tracy @ My Tiny Tank.net
    February 1, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    I’ve found that being happy is in direct correlation with balancing life. You seem to be balancing well. Keep it up. Also my Mom always said “Have a little fun everyday!” It really works in the pursuit of happiness. Keep having fun.

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    Nina
    February 1, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    I hope you keep blogging! I am really sorry this happens … I just don’t get it. I love your blog!

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    Shelley B
    February 1, 2013 at 7:43 pm

    I think you need to do what is right for yourself. If blogging is hurting you and not helping you, then consider taking a break or making it private. As much as I and everyone else like keeping up with you, you have to do what is best for you and your life. You’re not living it for us!

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    Heather
    February 1, 2013 at 9:51 pm

    You are an amazing woman!! The hateful things people say are more about themselves than they are the people they are saying it to! You just keep rocking on sister!!

    Namaste!

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    Amy
    February 2, 2013 at 7:53 am

    Kenlie,

    I am so sorry you’ve had such awful trolls come in and make you feel badly about your blogging. You probably don’t remember me, but I met you at Fitbloggin’ and put your blog on my feed as soon as I came home. I have really enjoyed your blog and listening to how you are enjoying your new life! I purposely signed on this morning because I was so looking forward to reading your stories about being in NOLA and the excitement there this week.

    I know I am guilty of focusing on the negative (and your negative comments sound super negative and vaguely disturbing), I know we all kind of are in this community, it’s probably one thing we all have in common. So easy to toss away the positive many for the negative few. That being said, please know that there are plenty out there that are rooting for you, truly enjoy reading about your happiness and your life.

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    Patty
    February 4, 2013 at 10:29 am

    There is the Kenlie we know and love! 🙂

    Live for yourself…always!

    And blog only when you want to. Trolls will always be there…insignificant as always!

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    Theresa
    February 4, 2013 at 1:53 pm

    Love your blog, I hope you keep at it. Sorry that you have to see any of those hateful comments. I just really don’t understand where they come from. If someone does not like you or your blog, why are they reading it then? What kind of people are they? You almost want to talk to them to find out where this hate comes from, but it’s not worth the time. Your a great person and an inspiration to so many. Getting to know you through your blog has encouraged me both in fitness and general happiness. I pray that you have a very Blessed and wonderful day.
    TC

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    RobinH
    February 5, 2013 at 1:22 pm

    Such appalling behavior is an expression of the stew of hatred and jealousy within the writer. It has nothing to do with the recipient.

    I enjoy your writing for the positive attitude and good humor you share with us. I hope you can continue and ignore the trolls. Imagine being so pathetic you would try to hurt people just to get a reaction? They don’t deserve any of your time.

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    Tricia
    February 5, 2013 at 11:39 pm

    I recently discovered your blog, and have to say you are a true inspiration.

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