What should I do? I meet up with a dozen friends every Tuesday evening, and I always bring dessert. It’s expected. I mean, no one forces me to bring it, but I know it is appreciated and highly anticipated. Let’s face it. I make good desserts.
It’s no secret that I bake, and it brings me a lot of pleasure to see people enjoying things that I create. Most of the people I see on Tuesday nights do not struggle with weight so eating a piece of cheesecake like the one I brought Tuesday isn’t a big deal to them like it is to me.
I enjoy watching recipes come to life, but it’s hard to watch people enjoy what I make without enjoying it with them. Making cheesecake was better than the cupcake trend because there was no tasting it prior to serving it, but I can’t eat (even a tiny piece of) this every week. One a year? Maybe.
Food surrounds us, and we base a lot of activities around it. It happened in New York, and it happens in New Orleans too (and everywhere else I go.) I love food, and I love people so going out to dinner, eating at a friend’s place before we play games or lunch with friends just feels right to me.
I know folks who have lost incredible amounts of weight by not having a social life, but I am not prepared to sacrifice all of the things that matter to me. Being a skinny hermit won’t make me happier than I would be losing weight slowly and consistently while enjoying my life too.
Maybe I’m just not willing to do what it takes to lose weight. It’s hard knowing that at one point I could do both. I went out, but I also lost weight. I controlled my portions, and I ate one or two unhealthy meals a week instead of several a week.
It’s easier for me to avoid sweet snacks completely, but how should I deal with that fact that they’re expecting me to bring sweet treats? I don’t want to disappoint my friends or make them feel like I care about myself more than them, but I do know that I had to be pretty selfish to be successful before. Is that that answer?
What would you do in my situation? Would you stop bringing sweets? Offer to bring an alternative?