Earlier this week I wrote a post about the anger that I was feeling, but I wasn’t ready to discuss how to change it. Here’s an excerpt from what I said:
What can I say? I know that I should skip the venti iced nonfat caramel macchiato at Starbucks. I also know that I should start my day with a workout instead of sleeping in for an extra half hour. I know that I should swap out the food that I eat at restaurants for salads that I eat at home, and I know that I should drive by Krispy Kreme without stopping…ever. (Seriously, who needs a doughnut from Krispy Kreme? They’re grossly overrated.)
Feeling angry sucks, and feeling angry and helpless sucks even more. Verbally abusing myself won’t change anything either. I understand that it works for some people, but I love myself too much to do it (at least most of the time.) Losing weight isn’t easy, but it’s possible. How many times have I said that over the years? Maybe it’s hard. It’s obviously harder for me than I like to admit, but there are some simple concepts that would lead to big results if I’d simply do them:
- Skip the calorie-laden drinks at Starbucks. This seems like common sense, and it is. I decided that I’d allow myself to drink them from time to time, which then became pretty frequent. It’s fine to have a coffee or tea with no sugar and a splash of milk, but the 270 calories and load of sugar (even with the 16 grams if protein) just isn’t a good idea. I don’t drink sodas. Why in the world would I drink sugary milk?
- Exercise on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and a weekend day. This is easy enough, and yet, I’ve gotten so incredibly lazy. I don’t sit at home and watch TV or all day or anything, but I tend to leave my house shortly after noon (without eating lunch.) I work as a private tutor during the week, and I go to class as well. I lead a small group on Wednesday evenings and go to band practice on Thursday evenings. I’m not lazy in a traditional sense, but I’m not making an effort to sweat before I leave home. (Did I mention the cute, little gym upstairs at my building? I’m embarrassed to admit how long it’s been since I exercised in it.)
- Prepare healthy foods that I can take with me on the go. I used to do this. It requires some extra effort, but I used to believe that Sunday nights existed for food prep. At some point (a long time ago) that changed. It needs to change again because a little effort goes a long way, and little changes like that go a long way.
- Say NO to Krispy Kreme. I know so many people who think that their doughnuts are sub-par, and they are. I know it, but when I drive by, I want them. I don’t always get them, but I get them more often than I should. I used to love cokes. I would drink them everyday. I was a slave to them, and one day I stopped drinking them. Now, years later, I think they’re so ridiculously disgusting. Perhaps it’s time to have a similar experience with doughnuts.
If you talk to someone who has lost a significant amount of weight, if they’re being honest, they’ll probably tell you that it’s hard to get everything right all the time. (I know this is true because I hear it often.) I’m not sure if it gets easier or when, which means that I’m focusing on a couple of minor changes that will lead to better results. Right now regaining control is my biggest concern, and I’m making a couple of minor adjustments to do just that.
My focus this month has surrounded Starbucks because I’m there frequently. Exercising before Starbucks is better than not exercising, but skipping sugary coffee drinks is obviously better that that. I’d like to see some changes in myself, and I’m giving up the macchiatos for the next month. At that point, I’ll decide if I want to have one before limiting them again, but my guess is that I’ll be over them. I don’t drink coffee everyday, but I like the environment. My goal is to have unsweet tea or unsweet tea when I’m there. I drink a lot of water there too because one of my favorite barista pals always reminds me to hydrate.
I’m also banning Krispy Kreme from my life for the next 30 days. Am I the only one who feels like short-term goals are more manageable? I’ve proven that making number goals without adjusting my habits doesn’t work. Maybe now I can prove that creating goals in the form of new habits will, in fact, allow the number goals to work themselves out.
I’m much happier and much more relieved than I was when I wrote the previous post, but I’m still not happy with the fact that I let myself spin out of
I’m in Washington, D.C. right now, and I’m sticking to the Starbucks rule too. I still can’t say that I’m in control, but I’m working on it again, which is more than I could say at the beginning of the week.