Embracing My Selfie, Or Why I Take Lots of Pictures of Myself

I’ve been taking selfies since before they had a name. I avoided the camera for years, but at some point on my journey through life, it became common for me to snap photos of myself.

Kenlie

Last week I got to spend time with a long time blog friend, Cathy, who was in New Orleans visiting for a conference. When she told me about her upcoming trip, we knew we’d meet up, and we did. We met at Cafe Dumonde, where I resisted beignets. (Yay for me!) We also walked around Jackson Square, which is the prettiest part of the French Quarter in my opinion.

This woman has been my friend since at least 2010. The moment I saw her, it was like seeing someone that I hadn't seen in ages!

This woman has been my friend since at least 2010. The moment I saw her, it was like seeing someone that I hadn’t seen in ages!

As we walked down Royal St, we stopped at CVS to pick up a few things, and I found a selfie stick! I obviously bought it on the spot, and it’s the best $10 I’ve spent in a while. I haven’t used it to take any selfies because doing that would be ridiculous, but I’ve been in some hilarious group photos that wouldn’t have been possible without my Mono Pod de Narcissism.

I’m surrounded by an uplifting group of friends, many of whom take selfies, with exception of a few because they’re too narcissistic, and I understand that. I really do, and even though I kind of agree, I look at it from a different perspective.

There was a time when I hated myself so much that i avoided mirrors at all costs. I looked at myself long enough to style my hair and apply makeup, but I was mortified when I caught my reflection in store windows. I hated the way I looked in photos. I still took them, but I didn’t post them online because of my shame. For years the only photo that I had one Facebook was a picture of my hair blowing in the wind while driving with the top down. I didn’t want to be seen by others, nor did I want to take a look at myself either.

Sometimes I take full body photos to send to Ariel, so she can say yes to the outfit or no.

Sometimes I take full body photos to send to Ariel, so she can say yes to the outfit or no.

Now, years later, I’m still not skinny, but I love myself. I’m not pleased with myself for still having so much weight to lose, but I love myself. I haven’t accomplished every goal that I set yet, but I love myself. (You get the idea, right?)

Full body Selfie Lane Bryant

I also think that it’s okay to wear horizontal stripes even though I always hear that I shouldn’t. Whatever, folks. I’m doing it.

Sometimes when I take a selfie, I’m reminded of how much work I have to do. It’s also hard to accept the fact that I could have done so much more over the last few years. Those thoughts are important to face because it has helped me make better decisions over the last few months – decisions that bring me closer to my goal.

Gym Selfie

I was frustrated seeing myself in the giant gym mirrors when I took this around the holidays because I should be smaller now, then I remembered that I was in the gym doing something good for myself. I like capturing those moments.

Some days I post selfies because I want to hear that I’m cute, pretty, etc., and when that happens I admit it with proper hashtags. #PAYATTENTIONTOME

See? I have some pretty uplifting friends who encourage me when I need it.

See? I have some pretty uplifting friends who encourage me when I need it.

And some days (many lately) I take selfies because I feel pretty. I’ve been using a few products on my face since Christmas, and the result is that my makeup is still mostly in tact even after singing (sweating guts out) on Sunday morning. (Thank you, Smashsbox Photo Finish!)

Kenlie Naps

I took this selfie last week right before I took a long afternoon nap on my sofa. Sundays start early for me, so sometimes I nap.

Some people find success, at least temporarily, by tearing themselves down. I feel successful when I see myself and love the person that I see.

I have a lot to accomplish, and I’m happy to say that I’ve lost week for the last five weeks in a row. It may not sound like much, but I’m experiencing more consistency in my food choices than I have in a long time. I haven’t had a doughnut since September, and I haven’t indulged in any desserts in over two weeks.

I’m feeling good about my tiny steps in the right direction, and the selfies will continue to be a small representation of that. They might also lead to encouragement from people who care on days that I need that too.

Kenlie Car

How do you feel about selfies? Are they good? Bad? Do you care either way?

 

 

18 thoughts on “Embracing My Selfie, Or Why I Take Lots of Pictures of Myself

  1. Connie

    I think this was a great post. I personally have problems with my selfies. I take them, but no one ever sees them. Especially now that I am in my 40’s. I just don’t feel as pretty as I did before gravity started messing with my facial structure! I have a HUGE age spot on my forehead that no amount of make up will cover, (thank you tanning beds)… (note: to those that are using tanning beds… yes your tan looks great, but just say no)!

    Keep posting pic’s Kenlie- your beautiful and it’s awesome that you know it!

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    1. Kenlie Post author

      I’m a very, very long way from thinking that I look beautiful, Connie, but I like myself. I think may face is pretty cool. Ha

      It’s funny that you mention tanning today. It’s not something that I do, but it’s an option at the gym that I want to join. I’m just not sure that it’s a good idea, you know? I think I’m with you, in that, it’s just not worth it.

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      1. Connie

        Yes, keep resisting. There was a time that I tanned everyday, or at least 5 days a week. My motto was that brown cellulite was prettier than white…. of course I was joking but it did make me feel pretty or even a little sexy. For about 5 years now, the only tan I sport is a ‘farmers tan’. 🙂

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  2. Sara P.

    I love a good selfie and like you have been taking them before they had a name. Sometimes they just make me feel better about myself. I don’t always have the greatest self esteem so when I take a good one I keep it because it makes me feel good about myself. Narcissistic, maybe? But I don’t care! 🙂

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    1. Kenlie Post author

      Yeah, I’ve been blogging for a decade about my life, unsolicited opinions, etc. It’s safe to say that I’m narcissistic, but I think that’s okay as long as we care about other people too. I definitely do.

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  3. Lisa

    Mono Pod de Narcissism – love it!!! For some reason I can never take good selfies of myself…if I want a good one, I have to have my daughter take it. I don’t have teenage girl selfie skillz so there aren’t many of just ME !!

    Keep on taking them – you’re so pretty it’s OK !!!

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    1. Kenlie Post author

      I don’t know if I’m good with the monopod yet or not, but I’m probably going to have to try it soon. my friends think it’s hilarious. Ha

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  4. Love, Jimmie

    I’ve taken more selfies this year than ever in my whole life, but mostly with other people. I want a record of my time with them. I want to preserve the memory or just the moment with my mom, my sister, whoever. I am who I am. A selfie isn’t going to change the way I look, you know?

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  5. Jenn

    I don’t think I will ever get a selfie stick, and sweaty selfies bother me, but I have no problem with my photo online. It is important to love who you are and what you can do. Kudos to you, Kenlie!

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  6. TC

    Hello My Friend,
    (I hope I can call you friend, I read every one of your blogs that come out.)
    I have very rarely comment, but want to tell you that you are an inspiration to read and have truly loved your blog for some years now.
    I love your fashion and the tips that you talk about, I on the other hand, struggle with that and am always looking for something to switch it up for me.
    You talked about in this blog “Smashsbox Photo Finish” I love the way you take pictures and I think I’m going purchasing this product.
    Could you recommend something for under the eye to help with brightening up?
    I would appreciate your opinion and understand if you don’t have time.
    Thanks again for your blog (and looking at your last blog 10 lb loss is fabulous) 
    Have a Blessed day
    TC

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  7. Natalie Cleary

    I really enjoy your blog! This is an amazing post. Really inspiring for me. I’m trying to lose weight and trying to keep confident while doing so. It’s really hard but once I read this, it makes me feel like it could be possible! Thank you for a new point of view. Selfies are definitely now going to be seen as empowering to me.

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