Would You Attend Your 20th High School Reunion?

I’m sitting in my home office while my husband prepares breakfast, and it seems so crazy and awesome that we’re approaching our first anniversary so quickly. June 3rd will mark a year that we’ve been married, and while it’s been a year filled with change, it’s also been one of the best years of my life so far. June 3rd is also the date of my 20th high school reunion, and while we ultimately decided to take a vacation elsewhere, we did consider heading up to Oklahoma to see family and old friends.

I enjoyed high school, but the years after it proved to be the darkest, most difficult of my life for reasons that I’ll probably never talk about on the internet. My senior year of high school was hard, though I do have fond memories of friends. I didn’t stay in close contact with many people from Oklahoma, but there are people from middle school and junior high who are still important to me today. They knew me when my life was hardest, and they still choose to love me today. I see those people when I visit Oklahoma, and I don’t anticipate that changing…ever.

Michael and I considered going to my reunion, and he said that it was my choice. He’d go if I wanted to go, and I think I would have said yes if it had been a different weekend. I declined, telling my old classmates that we’d be celebrating our anniversary instead, and I was surprised to learn that some of them would be celebrating their 20th anniversary on the same weekend! What?! Wow! When did I get so old??? Congrats to them! We’ll be on a road trip in one of the coolest cities in the U.S. instead, but being connected with so many people from my past makes me wonder how their lives are today. It also makes me feel so thankful that I love the life I’m living today.

After high school, my life took a turn that led to a downward spiral of sadness and isolation that I now know was not my fault. I felt hopeless for far too long, but Jesus changed all of that and healed me. Since high school, I’ve lived in Oklahoma City, New York City, Los Angeles, and New Orleans. In some ways, living in Oklahoma seems like a lifetime ago, and I suppose it was. I’ve been out of Oklahoma for about half of my lifetime now, and as much as I enjoy visiting Oklahoma, it’s not at the top of my priority list right now. I prefer to spend time this summer visiting family in Colorado and making new memories with my husband and amazing friends and family.

Do you keep in touch with friends from high school? Do you make an effort to attend high school reunions?



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    May 14, 2018 at 7:58 am

    I haven’t attended any high school reunions. I really didn’t have many friends that I went to high school with. My friends were neighborhood kids and we were in different grades and some were at different schools. I am still in touch with those friends and see them often all these years later but haven’t stayed in touch with anyone from high school

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    May 14, 2018 at 12:08 pm

    I’ve not only attended all of my high school reunions, I was on the planning committee for each one. I keep up with some people from school in person, and others through Facebook. Our 20th reunion happened less than a week after 9/11. We thought about canceling it, but decided to go through with it because President Bush implored people not to let the terrorists win by changing our lives. We only had one person cancel. It seemed very important to see the people who knew you when you were young at that terrible time. Each time there is a reunion, fewer people attend. Part of it is the Facebook effect – why pay to see people you can keep up with for free. One fun thing about each of our reunions – the banner that hung at our prom has hung at every reunion. It says “The Best of Times”.

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    May 14, 2018 at 6:22 pm

    My 10th (11th) high school reunion was a big disappointment. Very clickish still. I tried to make conversation with a classmate and they literally stopped the conversation and walked away. How rude! The day after dinner they were going to have lunch at the high school. I was so done from the night before I got my boxed lunch and left. I don’t want to ever attend again.

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    Michele Friedman
    May 14, 2018 at 8:13 pm

    I didn’t go to my 20th high school reunion, or my 30th last year. I didn’t really like most of the people I went to high school with all that much while I was there, so to waste any adult time on them seems to be an awful lot to ask. I keep in touch with the ones I want to, and the rest I wish well but I don’t wish them in my life.

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    May 17, 2018 at 1:22 pm

    I have not been to any reunion…and I’m at year 28…’s the distance…but also saying that the people I wanted to keep in touch with…I have! The rest…well…if I didn’t find it important then, I probably wouldn’t now!!

    Happy early anniversary!!

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    June 1, 2018 at 12:45 pm

    my 20th reunion caught me by surprise, as it made me realize just how far from high school i was. while everyone was very nice, i really didn’t feel like i could relax throughout the event. i guess others felt that way too, as most of the buffet food remained uneaten. i think it also awakened a sadness in me, as my parents divorced soon after high school and we moved away from the area.

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