Last week, I excitedly shared that I had found a new Weight Watchers group and a new gym in my new city. I was so pleased with myself as I wrote that post because I have desperately longed to get back into a groove since my world flipped upside down over the summer. But I received comments from a reader who expressed her disappointment in me for not losing more than 12 pounds since losing my first 100 pounds, and I’m disappointed in myself too so I give up. I mean, if all I can do is lose 112 pounds in a year a half then surely it must be time to throw in the towel…so thanks for giving me a new perspective “Maureen.” It’s obvious that I need not worry about moving forward so bring on the Blue Bell Moolenium Crunch…I quit!
Quitting has never been an option for me nor is it an option now. I love losing weight even if it’s not fast enough to please every single person reading this blog. This journey is for me anyway. And my blog is about my progress and my ups and downs. And that’s the way it will continue to be.
I love comments – sharing them with others and receiving them. When I don’t have something positive to say, I tend to stay quiet, but I can’t control how anyone reacts to what I write. And I wouldn’t want to. I feel blessed to say that after receiving over 5,000 comments in the last year and a half that I can count all of the negatives on one hand. A couple of those negatives came over the weekend when “Maureen” left some comments worth discussing so bear with me as I work through them.
“Please don’t take this the wrong way but I’m a bit disappointed and confused as to why you’ve only lost 12lbs since you hit the 100lbs lost mark in the Spring and that was months ago. Is WW no longer effective or are you just overindulging? There’s another blog I follow on your blogroll where the author’s dropped over 50lbs since the Spring on WW too.”
You can see the full comments here.
Then after several comments of encouragement from others, she left a follow-up comment. She said,
“I’m just wondering as someone who’s followed her journey in blogland how honest Kenz is really being with us followers and herself. If someone’s really watching every bite and working out like mad there’s no way they’d only lose 12lbs in 6 months (barring a medical condition), especially when they lost 100lbs in a year. This is way beyond a plateau, the numbers (and words written here) simply don’t add up. Just sayin“
I’ve been extraordinarily open about my weight-loss since Day One of this blog. And while I’ve chosen not to turn my blog into a daily pity party about the trials I’ve faced recently, which do include a medical condition, the fact remains that I have struggled greatly. But I have not hidden that fact. And I certainly haven’t claimed that I “watch every bite and workout like mad.” I typically do not eat beyond my daily POINTS allowance, but I’m much more productive when I eat high protein and high fiber foods as part of balanced meals. Also, you can see my workout schedule on my blog.
Life changed drastically, and I was as open as I felt I could be about those struggles. Check out my posts from August..they’re gut-wrenching. Could I have shared more details? Of course…but it was tough to share as much as I did. Is Weight Watchers still effective? Of course it is…Millions have lost, and I’m still losing consistently too.
While “Maureen” left negative comments, I received support from so many of you just as I always do. And those comments mean so much…especially on days in which people seek to tear me down. Where there’s one negative comment, there are more than 20 positives…and this is one of my favorites…
“…It’s her blog, and she’s telling her story…and only SHE knows her entire story…Bottom line – it’s Kenz’s life and Kenz’s journey, and we are choosing to read her blog and ride along with her. If we don’t like the ride, we can get off at any time…”
“…Wow. Weight loss isn’t always one straight line even when you’re following the program. Stress and other factors can really mess things up! Chill out and use your energy for good, not cranky doubting.“
And Deb said,
“Re: Maureen’s confusion. chuckle. I think the fact that you lost 12 pounds instead of gaining 40 pounds is amazing!!!! Ain’t no plan can cover what you’ve put up with in those six months! Unless it would be the WW’s “living in a suitcase while your life is turned upside down” plan.”
Perhaps “Maureen” didn’t mean to be offensive, but she left little clues that lead me to believe she thinks she knows me better than she does. So “Maureen” I would encourage you to continue to read my blog and watch for the continued success that is imminent. But if you’re here to see me drop my remaining weight by April then you will be disappointed. There are blogs you can follow if you wish to see people lose 200 pounds in a year, but that won’t happen on this one.
Weight-loss is not a contest. For me, success has come from making big changes and small changes over time. I could have made a lot of excuses over the summer. Life was hard, but I didn’t give up. Could I have done more for myself? Absolutely! But priorities are personal, and I take full responsibility for my physical and emotional well-being.
I knew that when I began to post about my life so candidly that I would be open to criticism. And I’m okay with that. Do I need that kind of negative encouragement? Nope…Do I deserve it? Nope…but I’m happy to have cleared the air because I’m ready to move forward.
I am ready to see the numbers on the scale drop substantially again, and I am doing what it takes this week to make that happen. I’m trying to get it right just like everyone else on this journey. There’s no easy solution, but I won’t be throwing in the towel anytime soon…just sayin’…