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Embracing My Selfie, Or Why I Take Lots of Pictures of Myself

I’ve been taking selfies since before they had a name. I avoided the camera for years, but at some point on my journey through life, it became common for me to snap photos of myself.


Last week I got to spend time with a long time blog friend, Cathy, who was in New Orleans visiting for a conference. When she told me about her upcoming trip, we knew we’d meet up, and we did. We met at Cafe Dumonde, where I resisted beignets. (Yay for me!) We also walked around Jackson Square, which is the prettiest part of the French Quarter in my opinion.

This woman has been my friend since at least 2010. The moment I saw her, it was like seeing someone that I hadn't seen in ages!

This woman has been my friend since at least 2010. The moment I saw her, it was like seeing someone that I hadn’t seen in ages!

As we walked down Royal St, we stopped at CVS to pick up a few things, and I found a selfie stick! I obviously bought it on the spot, and it’s the best $10 I’ve spent in a while. I haven’t used it to take any selfies because doing that would be ridiculous, but I’ve been in some hilarious group photos that wouldn’t have been possible without my Mono Pod de Narcissism.

I’m surrounded by an uplifting group of friends, many of whom take selfies, with exception of a few because they’re too narcissistic, and I understand that. I really do, and even though I kind of agree, I look at it from a different perspective.

There was a time when I hated myself so much that i avoided mirrors at all costs. I looked at myself long enough to style my hair and apply makeup, but I was mortified when I caught my reflection in store windows. I hated the way I looked in photos. I still took them, but I didn’t post them online because of my shame. For years the only photo that I had one Facebook was a picture of my hair blowing in the wind while driving with the top down. I didn’t want to be seen by others, nor did I want to take a look at myself either.

Sometimes I take full body photos to send to Ariel, so she can say yes to the outfit or no.

Sometimes I take full body photos to send to Ariel, so she can say yes to the outfit or no.

Now, years later, I’m still not skinny, but I love myself. I’m not pleased with myself for still having so much weight to lose, but I love myself. I haven’t accomplished every goal that I set yet, but I love myself. (You get the idea, right?)

Full body Selfie Lane Bryant

I also think that it’s okay to wear horizontal stripes even though I always hear that I shouldn’t. Whatever, folks. I’m doing it.

Sometimes when I take a selfie, I’m reminded of how much work I have to do. It’s also hard to accept the fact that I could have done so much more over the last few years. Those thoughts are important to face because it has helped me make better decisions over the last few months – decisions that bring me closer to my goal.

Gym Selfie

I was frustrated seeing myself in the giant gym mirrors when I took this around the holidays because I should be smaller now, then I remembered that I was in the gym doing something good for myself. I like capturing those moments.

Some days I post selfies because I want to hear that I’m cute, pretty, etc., and when that happens I admit it with proper hashtags. #PAYATTENTIONTOME

See? I have some pretty uplifting friends who encourage me when I need it.

See? I have some pretty uplifting friends who encourage me when I need it.

And some days (many lately) I take selfies because I feel pretty. I’ve been using a few products on my face since Christmas, and the result is that my makeup is still mostly in tact even after singing (sweating guts out) on Sunday morning. (Thank you, Smashsbox Photo Finish!)

Kenlie Naps

I took this selfie last week right before I took a long afternoon nap on my sofa. Sundays start early for me, so sometimes I nap.

Some people find success, at least temporarily, by tearing themselves down. I feel successful when I see myself and love the person that I see.

I have a lot to accomplish, and I’m happy to say that I’ve lost week for the last five weeks in a row. It may not sound like much, but I’m experiencing more consistency in my food choices than I have in a long time. I haven’t had a doughnut since September, and I haven’t indulged in any desserts in over two weeks.

I’m feeling good about my tiny steps in the right direction, and the selfies will continue to be a small representation of that. They might also lead to encouragement from people who care on days that I need that too.

Kenlie Car

How do you feel about selfies? Are they good? Bad? Do you care either way?



Happy Birthday To Me! =)

My weekend was full of fun and friends, and I feel more blessed than ever to be living the life I live. Last night about 30 friends came over to celebrate my birthday with me. My little shin dig was catered by Depot Market which is locally owned, and the waitress/bartender/super star was fantastic. I’ll definitely have her back here at Christmas. 🙂 And the executive chef, Dave, did an amazing job with food preparation. Everyone loved it.

There are so many photos, and of course, I’m going to share a few…

These are some of my favorite ladies. 🙂 Just saying.
The food was quite tasty, and the company was wonderful too. My friend, Sue, made friends around the table and kept watch over everything. See the little sliders? There were pulled pork sliders and cheeseburger sliders, and both were 3 WW points each – a fantastic calorie value in my opinion.
My cake was adorable…I loved it. 🙂
Dave makes these chips himself, and they are life changing…seriously. OMG! The fiesta station was incredible.
And the reason I chose Depot Market – the highly anticipated international cheese platter. There are no words to describe how much I loved the pretty cheese! I had a few bites of it, and it definitely tasted as good as it looked.

The sushi came from my neighborhood sushi take-out restaurant, and the owner delivered twice as much as I had requested. He said “Just enjoy it.” I certainly did enjoy it. I’m a big fan of brown rice California rolls.

Sarah and I had such a wonderful weekend together. She’s kind of my hero. Just saying. 😉 She headed back to Boston then she was off to spend the day on the cape (Cape Cod.) I’m looking forward to seeing her again soon.
I made a wish, and I’m confident that it will come true. =)
More friends…I’m so glad that everyone came.
My workout buddy and friend, Carol.
And here’s one more picture of the cake. The top layer was white with butter cream, and the bottom layer was chocolate fudge with homemade cookies infused..It was delicious.

There are so many fun photos, but I had to put up a few of my favorites! 🙂 I posted pictures of those who don’t mind being a part of my blog, but I feel so fortunate to have everyone in my life – even those who prefer not to be on the web. Ha..:)

I think that the upcoming year will be a tremendous one. I’m so lucky to have loving, caring and supportive people around me everyday. And now it’s time to look ahead to all of the good times that are coming. Bring it on 30! I’m ready. =)

Happy New Year!

We are only hours away from the new year, and I am ecstatic about going into 2010 as a healthier and slimmer person than I was going into 2009.

This year has been a year of change in my mindset, my behavior and my actions. I became a person who controls what enters my mouth. I became a person who chooses to workout instead of settling for a justification not to. And I became a person who knows that I can achieve my weight loss goals by continuing to live a healthier lifestyle.
I am far from perfect, but as I reflect, I can honestly say that I’m working hard to be the person I want to be. And I plan to work just as hard in 2010.
Losing weight and changing my body is not easy, but it won’t happen simply because I wish it would. It has happened – and will continue to happen because I’m willing to choose myself and my well-being over eating fried foods everyday or being lazy for an extra 30 minutes to an hour of my day.
To those of you who take the time to support me by leaving encouraging comments or sharing your own successes with me, I appreciate you. I’m thankful for all of the support that I receive in my everyday life which includes my friends – here and in the blogosphere…my family and my tweeps. I wish you all the kind of success in 2010 that I wish for myself.

And to those of you who seem to have a tough time getting started or staying motivated, today is a new day. And the time is now — not tomorrow or the spring or the summer. There will always be a reason to start “later” if you look for one. You just have to understand that it’s mental. You have to will yourself to be who you want to be then work for it…

I have a feeling that the upcoming year is going to be stellar in weight-loss and otherwise. Let’s work together to make 2010 a fantastic year for all of us. Happy New Year!

Three Reasons…

One of my favorite Tweeps, Diz, wrote a post on her blog about being thankful. And while I do talk about being thankful from time to time, I think it’s important to focus on it more than I do.

Diz listed three reasons she had to be thankful, and I’m going to do the same thing. In life, good and bad things happen, but I choose to focus on the good.

1) I am thankful that my body is getting smaller. It is hard to see a difference at times, but when I look at pictures from April, I can see a little difference.

2) I am thankful that I have enough time and enough resources to concentrate on losing weight. My friend, Josh, says “the only time you have is the time you make.” And it’s true, but I’m lucky to be at a point in my life in which I can be as selfish as I need to be to get this done. 😉

3) I am thankful for the support I receive from my friends and family and tweeps and those who leave encouraging comments on my blog. It feels good to be reminded that even when it’s hard the rewards are great. So to each of you who has taken the time to encourage me, I thank you. Each encouraging word, whether it comes from someone at my WW meeting or in the form of a comment on Facebook or my blog, means more than I could ever express.

I am thankful for so many things, and I am enjoying the life I’ve been given more than ever before. I know I gush a lot, but I think it’s so important to keep things in perspective. And even though I wish every unwanted pound could be gone by morning, I’m happy to know that if I keep working hard, eventually it will be.