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Friend Makin’ Mondays: Getting To Know You

Hello from New York City.  Wow..It feels so good to be back here.  This is the only place that I’ve ever felt at home, and that’s probably because it’s the only home I have ever chosen for myself.  My trip isn’t over yet, but I can already tell you that I don’t want to leave.

Now that we’re in 2012, I think it would be fun to make FMM all about getting to know each other today.  If you blog regularly, then you know how much readership changes, and I definitely want to know those of you who take time to read my blog and participate in Friend Makin’ Mondays.  That is, after all, the point of FMM.  So let’s get to this week’s topic!

If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

FMM: Getting To Know You

1) What is one of your favorite ways to spend a Saturday? I like to spend Saturdays shopping with Mom with friends.  I just like being around people that matter to me.

2) List your top three favorite TV shows.  White Collar, Suits and Necessary Roughness (Will NR be airing again?)  The folks at USA Network definitely do it right!

3) Would you rather be in pictures or take them? Though I’m not crazy about the way I look, I love to be in pictures.  I take a lot of them too.

4) Why do you blog? I started blogging because I wanted to hold myself accountable and remember where I started, but now my blog is a part of me.  If someone said to me “You can’t blog anymore” I think I’d fall apart.  I love to encourage and be encouraged.

5) Share five websites that you visit regularly…

~ weightwatchers.com for e-tools


~ singsnap when I need a karaoke fix


~ A few different news sites.

6) If you could have lunch with one person from your Twitter list who would it be? I feel really fortunate to have met so many amazing people through my blog already…but if I had to choose just one today, I’d choose either @bayareakim or @jenniferweiner.

7) List a few of your favorite snacks. Oh good grief…this list could get long…Grapefruit, Brie, nuts, bananas, shredded cabbage, Uncle Sam Honey Almond cereal, string cheese, roma tomatoes, popcorn, etc.

8 ) Do you have a pet? If so, what kind? No, but I want a dog again someday…

9) Which three material possessions would you struggle to live without? iPhone, computer, sneakers

10) What’s your favorite drink? Topo Chico mineral water with a splash of fresh lime juice.

11) Do you enjoy cooking? I enjoy baking more and cooking for two or more…

12) Do you have children? No, but maybe someday?

13) What are your favorite hobbies?  crafting, in general – knitting, making pretty things, painting, etc.  I also like to sing.

14) Would you consider yourself to be shy or outgoing? I’m pretty outgoing.

15) If you could change one thing about yourself, what would you change? I’d change exactly what I’m changing…I’m working one day at a time to turn myself into the healthy, well-rounded person I want to be.

16) Who is your favorite actor/actress? I am in serious lust with Matt Bomer from White Collar. Not only is he a good actor, he’s also gorgeous, smart and from Texas.   It doesn’t get much better than that…

17) What’s the coolest thing you’ve done this week?  I’m in New York, and the week isn’t over so I’ll get back to you on that. 😉

18) Do you live near your family or far from them? Well, my sister, mom and dad all live in different states so no matter where I live, I live far from most of them.   I’m thankful, however, that I get to see them pretty often (even though it’s not as often as I’d like.)

19) List three of your talents. Singing, getting my point across, being creative.

20) What is your greatest attribute? I don’t give up.

Now it’s your turn to share your answers.  Don’t forget to come back here and link up in the comments!  Happy Monday!


No More Boyfriend For Kenlie, (Or Dear Penny, I Want A Bravo)

Many of you are probably familiar with the bravo stickers that Weight Watchers leaders give out when their members do something good, and next Thursday, I’ll be collecting at least one.

Cal and I broke up today.  Well, it was official today, and we discussed it  just before my weekly weigh-in so I walked into my meeting trying not to burst into tears.  And yeah, that lasted until someone said hello.  I let it all out before the meeting.  I cried, weighed in then cried more.  Oh, and I’m down 3.4 pounds this week which exceeded the two that I hoped to lose so I’ll definitely take it.

Anyway, after feeling rather miserable during the meeting (I honestly can’t even tell you what it was about) I went to dinner with some friends who were talking about hitting the gym.  I typically do not workout on Thursdays so I drove home.  And as I was changing clothes I decided I’d hit the gym too.

As a treat to myself, I paid for a day pass to Peak Performance, the fancy gym with the awesome ladder, and decided to sweat until I felt better.  And I did sweat – until they closed.  See Penny?  I deserve a bravo!  (If you read my blog, you may already know that Penny is my WW leader…)

Only halfway through my workout...

Instead of turning to food this week, I’ve stayed on track.  I’ve exercised everyday, and I’ve tracked my food.  And I feel better about myself when I do that so I’m going to continue doing it.  I’ll be in New York for the next week, but I’d like to show at least a 2 pound loss a week from now so I’ll have to be mindful while I’m there too.

So back to the break-up.  I tweeted about it today, and I changed my relationship status on Facebook. (That makes it official, right?)  Anyway, I didn’t share many details, and I probably won’t.  But here’s the short version.  I care about him, but we decided (together) that he isn’t really what I need.  Unfortunately, I changed my mind, but he didn’t.  He wants to be friends, still wants to see me, etc.  But I don’t know if I can do that.  I don’t know if I want to do that.  As I said, I care about him, and it was nice while it lasted.  I got to say everything I wanted to say to him, and I don’t have a single regret about our short time together.   That’s probably all I’ll say about him.

So it’s been a long day, and I have some packing to do.  I’m flying out at an ungodly hour so my plan is to rest as much as possible tomorrow while accomplishing a few things – including another sweaty workout.

I read a quote that inspired me this morning so I’m going to share it with you…

“The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.”

I can’t make someone love me or want me or miss me, and I can’t make “Mr. Right for Kenz” appear in my life (as much as I wish he would.)  But I can continue working toward becoming who I want to be.  Last year was hard, and this year I’ve decided that, hard or not, I’m going to do what I need to do for myself.  I’ve already (re)started, and I think we all know I’m not going to quit.

I hope your day was better than mine, but I was reminded, as I often am, that there are so many people around who care about me.  Thanks for that…



Does Gluten-Free Mean Gross?

I eat gluten, but I know that I feel better when I eat unprocessed foods like raw cabbage (my latest obsession) with cucumbers, tomatoes and raw pecans – none of which contains gluten so it would be interesting to see how my body responds to eating less gluten.  I don’t plan to eliminate it at this point, but I’d like to have a few awesome, go-to gluten-free recipes to make for company or when I feel like mixing it up.

Last Summer, I tried gluten-free cupcakes at a conference in Los Angeles and found one that tasted great, but I tried a couple that tasted like dirt first.  And last week, my dad shared a recipe for gluten-free cobbler with me, and while it’s not particularly healthy, it is delicious!  And I shared it with Cal’s mom who has been completely gluten-free for years.

If you’re interested in the recipe, here it is:

Dad’s Super Easy Cobbler

1 stick butter
1 cup brown rice flour (or other)
1 cup raw sugar
1 tsp baking powder
2/3 c rice milk
1 quart of sweetened frozen blackberries or other fruit (allow berries to sit overnight in 1/2 cup sugar)

Pre-heat oven to 325.  Place stick of butter in a 9 x 13 baking dish and allow it to melt as the oven heats.  

Meanwhile, combine flour, baking powder and sugar.  Add milk and pour into dish after mixing well.  

Pour fruit on top as evenly as possible and bake for one hour – or until golden brown.


Here’s my question for those of you reading this…Is it possible to make healthy, gluten-free food that tastes good?  And if so, will you share one of your favorite gluten-free recipes with me?



Keeping A Promise To Myself

Well, it’s weigh-in day, and I can tell you right now that it will not be pretty.  I will show a significant gain this week which made me consider skipping my weigh-in, but that’s not how it works.  I’m going! I ate and I exercised less, and now it’s time for the scale to reflect what I already know is coming.  For the record, I do think that going on and off of the birth control played into my gain a bit too, but the reasons don’t matter as much as the fact that I am back on track.

I don’t expect to undo several weeks of damage in two days.  (Sigh…I wish.)  Instead, I’m going to face the scale because I made a promise to myself, and I’m not going to let the yucky number piss me off, stress me out or impact what I’ve done this week. 

I am back in the habit of exercising, tracking and being more mindful of everything I put it in my mouth.  I have tossed out the divinity, the fudge and the caramel cashew trail mix from Target that I’ve been waiting since September to eat.  The cookies that Mom and I made went to an office of folks that were more than willing to get them off of our hands, and they’ve been replaced with cabbage, sugar snap peas, raw nuts, grapefruits and other foods that are delicious AND healthy for me.

Regardless of the number on the scale (it’s going to be bad, remember? I’ve already peeked) I know that I’m on the right track.  I know that I’m living my healthiest life today.  I lived it yesterday, and I’ll do it again tomorrow.  And right now, that’s as far into the future as I need to go.

The fact remains that I started here……..

My friend, Gordon, and me in 2008.

And now I’m here…

With Cal now...

And I feel different…better.  But I’m far from finished.

The scale does not define me, but my actions do.  And my actions will be reflected when I step on the scale this evening.  But hey, it could be worse.  I worked out a few times while I was gone (elliptical and swimming laps.)  But as my trip progressed, so did my leniency.  I admit it, and I take responsibility for it.  And that’s really all I have to say about that…

A New Philosophy (Because the Numbers Do Matter)

A couple of weeks ago, I said that my short-term goal was to lose 14 pounds, and that’s still my goal.  I knew it would be a lofty goal to achieve over the holidays, but I’ve decided that the time line isn’t as important as I was making it.  And after talking with Cal’s mom, Patti, last week I’ve decided to try something different.

It is common knowledge to many of you that Weight Watchers recommends losing half a pound to two pounds per week, but that doesn’t seem like much at all when losing 100 feels like it has barely made a dent.  But the truth is that time flies, and two pounds a week added up over a year would bring me into the 100’s – something that seems completely foreign to me right now.

So while my immediate goal is to reach 279 – a magic number in my mind, I’m going to spend more time focusing on tiny goals like 2 pounds per weigh-in, and that will be enough.  Patti, a successful, self-made real estate broker who owns a few different real estate offices and kicks butt at everything she does, lost 50 pounds by focusing on two pounds each week, and I know that would be less overwhelming for me too.

I’m hoping (and expecting, I think) to see a loss at my next weigh-in which will be the Thursday after Christmas.  Two pounds would be awesome, but any loss over the holidays would be nice.  (I say this as I’m about to indulge in a small piece of carrot cake that I made from scratch earlier this week.)

We had company...

I swam laps again yesterday, and I really wish I owned an Olympic size pool.  Of course, I’d be content just living close enough to swim regularly at the YMCA.   Until then, I’ll keep using the elliptical and treadmill and weights at Anytime Fitness.

I hope everyone is enjoying the holidays.  Hasta luego mis amigos. (I’m learning Spanish, remember?)

Beunas Noches!



FMM: Have You Ever? (And Some Other Things…)

Being at Dad’s house this week (and Cal’s parents’ house last week) has been great so far, but I’ve been busier than I would have imagined before I left.  And I miss my blog friends – big time!  I know that FMM may not be popular this week because we’re approaching the holidays, but Mondays are so much more fun for me when FMM is a part of it.  And I know that a few of you feel the same way so let’s do it.

Before that, I want to show you how I wore my hair for the wedding.  I had planned to see Megan before the wedding, but that didn’t happen so I fixed my hair myself at the last minute. Thankfully, I had some bobby pins in my purse.  I didn’t feel as glamorous as I had hoped, but the wedding was beautiful.  And Torri and Daniel are married now!

You can't really see my hair in this one, can you?

Over the weekend, Dad and I took Cal to the bombing memorial in Oklahoma City.  It greatly impacted our lives almost 17 years ago, and it’s still an intense place filled with memories that should never be forgotten.

OKC Bombing Memorial

Dad shared his memories with Cal and me...

We’ve also has some good meals and time with friends who have mattered to me for a long, long time.  I could write so much more, but now it’s time for FMM.

FMM: Have You Ever?

1. …traveled outside of your home country?  If so, where?  I’ve been to several fun places including Germany, Austria, Switzerland, France, Aruba, The Bahamas, etc.  And I plan to visit the UK at some point in the next year or so…

2. …performed on stage in front of at least 1,000 people? If so, share some details!  Yep…several times, but one of my favorite moments was singing with Don Henley from The Eagles or when I sang with Toby Keith.

3. …watched an episode of Jersey Shore?  Um, no…

4. …baked a cake from scratch?  If so, what’s your specialty?  I baked a carrot cake from scratch last night, and I really hope it’s half as good as Mom’s.  I’ll take a picture if it turns out well. 😉

5. …worked in a grocery store?  Yep.  My first job ever was pushing carts and carrying out groceries at a local grocery store.

6. …dated someone who was your best friend first?  No, but that sounds like a good way to do it!  I like to date guys that I’d want to be friends with too, of course.

7. …made a difference in someone’s life during Christmas?  I’ve volunteered and such.  Most years, I choose someone on the angel tree with the Salvation Army, and today I rang the Salvation Army bell in front of a store with friends…

8. …been on TV?  Yeah..

9. …had cosmetic surgery? No…that will probably change at some point when I’m at goal though.

10. …learned a second language?  If so, what else do you speak? I’m trying to learn Spanish now.  Cal is fluent, and my dad knows quite a lot too.  I’d like to get serious about learning it.

Now it’s your turn.  I know it’s a busy week, but I hope you’ll take a few minutes to share your answers on your own blog.  And if you do, don’t forget to come back here to link up in the comments.  Happy Monday friends…

Greetings from Oklahoma

Cal and I arrived in Oklahoma this evening, and we spent the evening with Dad.  We had some drinks and watched the debate while I knitted a scarf and Dad and Cal had their own little intellectual and theological debate.  Check out the scarf I made. 🙂

Sitting on the floor, entertaining myself…:)

I have so much to say about my plan to lose more weight in the coming weeks.  Cal’s mom, Patti, shared her philosophy on weight-loss, and I’ve decided that her plan will work for me too. We shopped yesterday from around 3pm until midnight.  It seems I  have finally met my match…ha 😉  Actually, she shopped much more than I did, but I had a great time with her…and I would guess that I burned quite a few calories walking because we literally didn’t sit until we hit Saks just before they closed. I picked up a couple of things, but I still have shopping to do!

Opening the first of her prezzies from Auntie! 🙂

I’ve also taken some time to workout at Anytime Fitness this week – totally confirming that I made the right decision between gyms.  I can go anytime, literally…and that’s precisely what I need.  It makes it really hard to come up with excuses not to workout when I can do it anytime and almost anywhere.

And while I’m here at Dad’s, working out with be more awesome than usual because after cardio, I’ll hit the pool.  I plan to swim at least a few miles over the next week, and I’m really looking forward to how that will make me feel.  I’ve kept my eating under control over the last couple of days too so I’m moving in the right direction, and it feels good.

I’m tired so I’m going to sleep, but I have to say that I miss you guys.  I hope you’re all enjoying this busy yet awesome season.  Sending out some virtual hugs to you……Good night from Oklahoma! 🙂


Busy Days

Life gets busy at this time of year, doesn’t it?  🙂  And there are so many fun things happening that I didn’t take time to post yesterday.  I considered doing FMM today, but I don’t know how you’d feel about that so instead, I’ll just share an update.

I haven’t worked out in the last few days.  I’m traveling, but I’ve decided to make time to workout today anyway.  There’s an Anytime Fitness a few miles from here, and there’s also a beautiful lake right outside so maybe I’ll just take a walk/jog with Cal’s dogs.  Either way, I’ve decided that Tuesday will be a healthy day, and I’ll worry about Wednesday tomorrow.

I got to spend the day with relatives before Cal and his mom joined us for dinner, and it was so good to see Aunt Meme.  I’d like to post photos, but I haven’t uploaded them yet.

Maybe I’ll have more to share after a good night’s sleep.  Until then, will you share what’s happening in your world?  I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected since late last week so fill me in.  Are you working out?  Are you eating well in spite of holiday parties?  What’s important to you this week?


Why Am I So Tired?

Today’s post might involve too much information for some, but I need help.  And I’m hoping that some of you will be able to relate and tell me that I’ll be fine.  I’ve been really lethargic over the last few weeks, and I need to figure out why because it’s affecting my desire to accomplish everyday things.

Last week Cal noted that I’m always busy doing something, and that’s true.  Generally speaking, I’m pretty productive, but in the last couple of weeks, it has been a struggle to accomplish anything.  Doing dishes, doing research, reading, etc.  Everything seems to be sucking the energy out of me even after I’ve slept for 7 hours or so.  Last night, even relaxing in the jacuzzi felt like work.

I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining because I’m not.  And I’m not making excuses either.  I’ve been doing 30-Day Shred even though it feels harder than usual, and Monday I walked/jogged 4 miles and did a similar workout again yesterday.  I typically walk a mile in about 12 minutes, but over the last few days it has taken just over 20 minutes per mile.  What?!  I’m doing what I need to do in spite of my fatigue, but I need to get to the root of it because feeling tired all the time stinks.

My habits haven’t changed much over the last few weeks.  Sure, I’ve been traveling, but I do that a lot.  I have been eating well this week and controlling my portions.  The only thing that’s different is that I’m taking birth control pills now.And now I wonder…Could they be affecting my energy level?  Could they be affecting my weight?  I’ll speak to my doctor about it during my next visit, but so many of you have insight to offer so I want to hear what you think.

Does taking birth control alter your energy levels or weight or mood?  Should I talk to my doctor about this now, or should I wait until my next visit (sometime next month?)  Will it regulate as my body becomes accustomed to taking it? I’ll keep doing what I have to do, but I’d like to have my energy back.

I’m Thankful

I know that Thanksgiving is over, but it doesn’t have to be a holiday for us to appreciate all of the things that are good so I’m going to create a list. I have a lot of reasons to be thankful this year.   I guess this post is really just for me, but I’d love to hear what you’re thankful for as well.  I’ll start with some obvious ones in no particular order and go from there…

I’m thankful for….

  1. Mom – she loves me unconditionally, and I have no doubt that she always will.
  2. Dad -he understands me more than I ever thought he could.
  3. The relationship I have with my sister.  She’s married to a great guy, and they do their own thing.  But we enjoy spending time around each other (at least I do) more now than as teenagers.  And while we’re really different, we’ve discovered some common ground.  She’s wise too, and that’s kind of awesome.
  4. Aunt Janice and Aunt Barbara – they’re the ones who will travel across the country to help me if I need it….Barbara makes my favorite foods, and Janice doesn’t let anyone mess with me.  They are the kind of family I’d choose if I had to choose my own family.
  5. Cal – he makes me smile, and everything just feels right when I’m with him.  He’s the kind of guy who happily goes into bed, Bath and Beyond with me (though he calls it Blood Bath and Beyond.) He cooks and doesn’t mind protecting me from bugs or reaching things on the top shelf…I’m smitten, but we all knew this already, no?
  6. My iPhone which keeps me connected to my friends and family, my blog and other online communities that are important to me.
  7. Kelly – she’s the person I’m most interested in calling to share the events of my day, to vent, etc.  She’s strong and supportive, but she’s not afraid to tell me how it is.
  8. Opportunities to improve myself – I enrolled in classes at an awesome university last week, and I can’t wait to get smart(er.)
  9. Fresh produce – I adore fresh green beans, garlic, onions, cucumbers, roma tomatoes, peppers and they’re good for me.  I’m thankful that they’re so easily accessible…
  10. My Prius – it gets amazing gas mileage and reminds me of just how far I’ve come every time I sit behind the wheel and realize “hey, I have plenty of room!”
  11. My sheets – they’re micro-fleece, and they keep me warm so much more than regular sheets.  It’s like wrapping up in blankets and more blankets.
  12. Skype. From time to time, I get to talk to Hahhah (my beautiful niece) which makes my heart smile.  I can’t wait to see her in a few days! 🙂  And I get to talk to other people that matter to me from time to time as well.
  13. Leslie – She’s a beautiful, successful woman with a heart of gold who is always willing to listen.  I seriously smile every time we talk!
  14. My nails – I have long, even nail beds and strong, healthy nails (hurt toe excluded.)
  15. Yarn – my colorful collection inspires me to create pretty things.  It’s easy to keep myself entertained when I have yarn and knitting needles.
  16. Books – I love to read.  Right now, I’m reading chick lit, but I’m almost ready for something new.  Any suggestions?
  17. BodyGlide – As I mentioned in an earlier post, Robby sent it to me, and it has made exercise fun again (as opposed to painful!)
  18. My friends – I’ve spoken specifically about a few, but I’m really lucky to have a few awesome people in my life.
  19. Being in a better place – I’m so thankful that I’m happy again.  Thinking back to this time last year makes me so grateful for where I am today.
  20. My creative side – crafting makes me happy, and I’m expanding my creativity…and it’s fun!  I’m on a wreath making bender which seems to have distracted me from junk food since I returned home a few days ago.  The crafts are going with me on my trip next week!
  21. My doctor – she’s awesome, and my quality of life has improved because of her abilities…
  22. My brain – I’m smart and blessed.
  23. USA Network – they provide hours of entertainment for me throughout the year.  My favorite shows are still White Collar, Suits and Necessary Roughness.  I cannot wait until they’re back on the air!
  24. The swimming pool at my dad’s gym – I haven’t had an opportunity to swim in almost a year.  I can’t wait to do it in the next few weeks. I’m going to do it everyday at Dad’s house!
  25. Sunny days – sunshine makes me feel energetic and puts me in a good mood.  It’s hard not to be happy when the earth is bright and there’s a nice breeze.
  26. My bicycle which allows me to travel without my car at times and also allows me to have fun exercising!
  27. Weight Watchers – for being there to help me help myself…
  28. My neighbors – I call them neighbor whether they’re across the street or across the country.  And no matter what’s happening in their world, I never leave their house without hearing “Come back!”
  29. Cal’s parents were so welcoming and lovely.  His mom is easy to talk to, and his dad looks like Clark Kent.  Ha…I was so nervous until I arrived, but after only a few minutes I was totally at ease.
  30. Richard Simmons – he believes I can do it…he believes that we can all do it!  And he has devoted his entire life to helping people like me succeed.  He deserves a giant, blinged out crown in heaven because he’s an angel on earth.
  31. Is it weird that I’m thankful for twitter?  More specifically, I’m thankful for the support and encouragement I can always find there…
  32. My WW leader, Penny…who understands my struggles and doesn’t judge me….
  33. Burt’s Bees – it makes my lips soft and cool………I wouldn’t want to live without it, especially in the winter.
  34. Cheesy Christmas movies because they make me giddy.  The Christmas season wouldn’t be the same without them.
  35. I’ve lived in some pretty incredible places, and I’ve traveled to some pretty amazing places as well.  And I’m thankful for the opportunities that have presented themselves and those that will present themselves in the future.
  36. My healthy body – it hasn’t always been so healthy, and while I realize that I have a long way to go, I’m thankful for excellent blood pressure, cholesterol and strength and endurance.
  37. Every single person who has ever stopped by to leave encouraging words or to express themselves here on my little blog.  I don’t want to know where I’d be without you.
  38. I’m thankful for the reminder earlier this year that God really does exist and that he cares for me.
  39. Teeth whitener which gives me confidence when I smile.  You know how much I love to flash my pearly whites, right? 😉
  40. Pearl Jam – there’s a song for every emotion…….and specific lyrics that have helped change my life..

I could continue listing things that make the thankful, but this is a good start.  Coming up with 40 things was pretty easy for me, and I hope it’s easy for you too.  Right now, I could add that I’m thankful for sore muscles.  My arms and chest are sore from the workouts I’ve done in the last couple of days, but it hurts in a good way.  Most of you know exactly what I mean, right?

Now it’s time to sleep…….and I’d like to share one of my favorite Pearl Jam lyrics…

“And the sun is setting, the sun will rise another day.” – Pearl Jam from the song “Long Road”