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Enough with the Black Lives Matter and Gender Equality Stuff, Or Why It’s Not Going To Work That Way

Before I share my thoughts I’d like to note that I’m half (yes, 50%) American Indian, and I’m obese. I face harsh and unfiltered discrimination on a regular basis, and I’m actively working on changing the tide (starting with myself.)

I mentioned my chat with Senator Bernie Sanders a few weeks ago, and while I don’t agree with a lot of his political views, I’m pissed about what happened in Seattle on Saturday.

The senator and presidential hopeful was there for a rally that was disrupted and ultimately shut down by Black Lives Matter “activists” who stormed the stage, showing a complete lack of respect for the senator and for the thousands of people who waited all day to hear him speak. 

Of course black lives matter; I have zero tolerance for those who disagree. The fact is all lives matter, and it’s ridiculous and sad that there are people in this nation who disagree.

There’s a serious race issue in this nation that needs to be addressed, but it’s no longer one-sided. Misdirecting anger toward one elected official who actively fights for civil rights seems like a dumb move to me.

Note to the “activists” who showed no remorse for their blatant disregard of everyone else: If you really want to affect change, try showing some respect, as opposed to acting like tempermental lunatics on a stage that isn’t yours. 

And while I’m fired up I’m going to share my feelings on Target’s decision to “move away from gender-based signs.” In my opinion the concept is stupid and mildly offensive.

I’m a woman, and I’m proud to be a woman. I don’t believe that everyone should be forced to be a woman, but I don’t see the problem in being on either.

I have friends who are transgender, and I understand and empathize with their struggle to find contentment because I am keenly aware of the difficulty associated in feeling different than everyone around you. Moving away from gender-based signs is a separate issue.

When I was growing up I didn’t play with baby dolls; I played with my dad’s sermon notes and highlighters. I wanted to be a consultant or an analyst before I was old enough to label myself as such. It didn’t matter to me if my blocks were pink and purple or if they were primary colors. I liked Lincoln Logs and Barbies, though my versatility never led to gender identity issues.

Society (myself included) has become so incredibly weak and overly sensitive that I fear we’ve forgotten that our differences make the world go around.

Men and women are different. We just are. When did that become such a deplorable and unacceptable thing?



Making a Difference in a Big Way

I don’t always share the projects that I’m involved in on my blog, but if we’re connected on social media, you might know that I’m involved with a pretty incredible group of people who aren’t afraid to stand up and make a difference.

PlusInc is a nonprofit organization that is committed to giving a voice to people of all sizes, and among other things, I’m honored to be on the Board of Directors.

If you’ve read my blog for very long, then you probably know that I’ve faced some pretty harsh discrimination because  ‘I have the nerve to be plus-sized.’  And you may also know that while my goal is to get to a healthy weight, I believe that we should all be treated with respect regardless of size.

The Declaration of Independence doesn’t say that we have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness as long as we’re not obese.  As Americans, we’re citizens first, and at our core, we’re human beings first.

We’re the only species that is so strongly led by emotions, and I get it.  People fear what they don’t know, but when that fear turns into hatred or misplaced resentment, what started as ignorance becomes completely unnecessary a problem for all of us.

I’ve always been hesitant to affiliate myself with the size-acceptance movement because so many seem to think that we need to stay larger than average to sincerely believe in it, but PlusInc has taken the pressure off by accepting me as I am and allowing me to choose the path thats best for my life, so I’m all in.

To get involved, or to learn more, go to: http://www.plusinc.org/membership.html. You can also check us out on Facebook and Twitter.


If You’re Reading This, Please Share Your Thoughts…

If you know me at all, then you know that New York still feels like home to me even though I no longer wake up there every morning.  And if you know me outside of my blog, then you might know that while I don’t often see eye to eye with Mayor Bloomberg, I do have a great deal of respect for him.

A few years after I moved to New York it became mandatory to share calorie counts on menus, and I was okay with that.  As someone who tries to be conscious of what I’m consuming, I was pleased to have the information readily available, but seeing the nutrition facts posted on the menu never had an impact on what I was eating.

As someone who began making a conscious effort to know such things, I wasn’t surprised when I saw the information; I was already aware of it.  And I was aware of it because it was my responsibility – my choice,  to make myself aware.  An interesting fact, however, is that my favorite restaurants in New York (not chains) still don’t post that information so it didn’t affect me often anyway.

And on the rare occasion that someone would convince me to go to The Cheesecake Factory (I prefer the sushi next door) I always laughed when I saw my friends openly gasp at the nutrition facts.  I heard “Oh no, I can never eat here again” and “How can it be that fattening?! It’s salad” was a common question as well.  But the fact is that my friends still ordered the same meals and the same drinks and desserts.  And soda drinkers will still drink soda.

Mayor Bloomberg has proposed a ban on sugary drinks in restaurants in New York.  In his attempt to curb obesity, he has suggested that restaurants (and places like Starbucks as well) should no longer be allowed to sell sugary, calorie-laden drinks that are larger than 16 oz.  And maybe you’re thinking that this doesn’t affect you because you don’t live in New York City, but take a look at history.  New York sets the bar for everyone else, and I have a serious problem with what the mayor is trying to accomplish here.

I stopped drinking soft drinks in 2009, and I have talked ad nauseam about the benefits of breaking that addiction in my life.  It’s easily the best thing I have ever done for my body.  The cravings were almost unbearable at first; it wasn’t easy.  It took a long time to find soda repulsive, but I do.  In fact, I rarely waste calories on drinks of any kind.  Water is the only thing I drink regularly, and in my view diet drinks are just as toxic as their non-diet counterparts.    (I prefer to waste calories on food, but that’s a different flaw for a different day.)

I drank a 90-calorie iced coffee this week at Starbucks. It happens, but it's incredibly rare.

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting the mayor on a few occasions, and I believe that he cares about New York and its people. I realize that his efforts come from a positive place, but this attempt to control our caloric intake is eroding the rights of Americans.

I’m overweight even though I weigh a lot less than I used to, and I’m afraid that Mayor Bloomberg simply does not understand the the psychological (and in some cases) physical damage that could result from telling Americans what they can or cannot consume.

Like many Americans who have never struggled with weight and/or food addiction, he doesn’t understand the complexities of obesity.  And it seems that he has also failed to realize that addicts find ways to sate themselves.

I despise soda.  It controlled me for years, and I wish that everyone could experience the positive effects of no longer drinking it.  But it’s not my decision, and it shouldn’t be Mayor Bloomberg’s either.

The government already controls so much more than it should, and adding calories to the unconstitutional list of things that the government already controls makes me sick to my stomach.

It may not seem like a big deal to some, but my question is when will it end?  Where will we draw the line?  I don’t want to look back at my life fifty years from now  only to wonder at which moment America was no longer a free country.

I don’t get political on my blog often, and it’s not likely that I will.  This issue, like many others, is extraordinarily important to me, and I want to know what you think.

Do you support Mayor Bloomberg’s proposal ban sugary drinks?  Do you think it’s discriminatory? Do you think that the government has a right to tell you what you consume everyday?